My boyfriend went to the doctor with me this morning, we were called back and the MA said the dreaded words "Please step on the scale" I looked at her and looked at him and then thought to myself go ahead and get it over with. My boyfriend is not a small man by any means and it pains me to know that I weigh more than he does. He of course is wonderful, loving and supportive and does not give a rats a$$ how much I weigh and I love him so very much for that. There was not one word mentioned about my weight. I love him for that also.
Does your hubby/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance know your actual NUMBER on the scale?
At some point something changed in my head. What I used to think was, if no one saw the ACTUALLY number on the scale, no one would really know the condition of my body. I think back in November I changed my mind on that- my weight is one of the easiest things for someone to know about me. Its right in front of them, more obvious than my eye color. Not that Im going to go around advertising my 212, but a bit of shame and guilt dropped off when that change of mind happened.
It's not a secret, I just haven't told him as it's embarrassing. I did inform him he will know when I hit 199 though as I will be dancing up and down the street.
My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers. Ironically, I don't think I allowed him to know my weight until we had been married 10 years, even when I was pregnant and giving birth. For my second child I looked a the nurse when she asked me and I said, "I'm sorry, but I'm NOT saying that in front of him. He doesn't need to know."
Somehow, the older I got the less I cared and that's kinda freeing. It's a number. It's not WHO I am. So he knows now. He's 9in taller than me and I have 30 lbs on him. And I DON'T CARE. I'm working on it and I feel good about that, and knowing that he loves every inch of me at this size is empowering as I look to the future of getting smaller and healthier. :-)
In the beginning of my journey, my husband didn't know. Now I practically shout every new weigh-in from the rooftops. If I reach a milestone, sometimes I will wake up him early in the morning to tell him. Other times, I tell him to squeeze me and let me know what he thinks. hahaha. He is a good sport in all of this!
Also, I told him when I get down to his size (165) we will report to eachother every morning to see who weighs less! It's not like he will be threatened at that point- he is 5'11!
Last edited by Underwater; 03-08-2013 at 05:50 PM.
im 255. i asked my bf how much does he think i weigh and he said 195. lmao i laughed and said you're sweet, but you are way off! I may not look 255 but i know i damn sure dont look 195 either. he doesnt know the actual number..
i think he'd be shocked to know I weigh 100 lbs more than him.
If I reach a milestone, sometimes I will wake up him early in the morning to tell him. Other times, I tell him to squeeze me and let me know what he thinks. hahaha. He is a good sport in all of this!
You are so cute! Great job rocking the 190s, such an inspiration for all of us trying to get there.
Nope. He's never asked nor cared. The only time it was an issue was when I wanted to go ziplinning. I was bigger than the women's and he was at least 20 pounds bigger than me. Yesterday he told me he was 264.5
It's not a secret, I just haven't told him as it's embarrassing. I did inform him he will know when I hit 199 though as I will be dancing up and down the street.
Mine totally does. He's known all my varying weights LOL We laugh because he "struggles" (<-- huge quotes cuz he has never been anything but thin)with 15lbs on and off. He will gain a few, then lose it, then gain it, then lose it. So, occasionally he is on a "weight loss plan" with me. I don't care at all that he knows. It's not like he doesn't see every pound anyway...the guy sees me naked frequently, so what's a number? lol
He's super supportive no matter what. He encourages me when I'm losing and zips his lip when I'm not. He has never once in 15 years made a negative comment about my weight and for that I am so grateful. Even when I've gotten down on myself, he is really supportive and loving ♥ my hubby, definitely a keeper!
DH doesn't care, but I tell him anyways. Can you believe he weighs 130 pounds?! 130 freaking pounds! He and I both agree that if I ever tried to get skinnier then him that I would look really unhealthy.
I'm now officially under the weight he met me at. Hooray! Everyday he gets a hotter wife. I told him I want to do a couples massage when I hit Onederland/50 pounds down.
ETA: Holy geeze...I'm practically going to be losing my husband's entire weight. -_- LOL. Oh well.
Last edited by lunarsongbird; 03-08-2013 at 06:18 PM.
Yes, but it was a superbly emotional day when I finally told him. It wasn't as though he couldn't tell I was over 200, but I didn't tell anyone. Now that we are both actively trying to lose weight it's great to have his support. We cheer each other on over ever half pound.
Does your DH/BF/GF/SO know your weight?
