Grumble Grumble
 

TOM. I don't like Tom.
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Sometimes it sneaks up on me. I start feeling "blah." I find myself tired and irritated. I begin thinking I dislike my job. I feel like DH is nitpicking me. And of course- my scale starts rebelling.

And then it dawns on me..."Oh...Tom...How I DID NOT miss you." :mad:

Mostly I'm just angry that I made this month more difficult then the last. I ate more hm...questionable foods and I can tell. It always makes Tom more difficult.

Anyone else want to grumble about Tom or anything else?

Oh. And because I played so much with my food choices last month- My sugar cravings are back. :: sigh ::

I posted this last week and I think it aptly describes my feelings LOL

Dear Period:

I know you are a necessary function of life. I know I desperately need you to be like clockwork every single month so that I may follow the biological directive you are made for and reproduce. I assure you that I very very much wish to do so. I am so very thankful that you are reliable and on time 99.9% of the time to help me in this endeavor.

But we need to talk.

What is this mess about making me gain 4 lbs???? I know it is you and I'm wondering exactly what I did to make you angry with me. I just don't get it. See, in order to fulfill your mission in life I need to get pregnant and I know me not being pregnant is making you think less of me, but the truth is; I can't get pregnant until I lose weight. I just don't understand why you would sabotage this by making me GAIN 4 lbs.

It seems very counter-productive. You should be ashamed.

It's very hard to want to stay on plan and eat right today when I feel so absolutely bloated and miserable. But I'm going to. I'm not going to let you win. I'm not going to let you sabotage my weight loss because you want to be a little b*tch.

Period, you need to grow up and get with the program.
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I posted it to be funny and to make myself feel better about the gain, but I got a lot of negative feedback from the not so lucky girls that don't have one every month. To that, I just want to say it was not my intention to cause issue and I am very grateful I have a normal schedule in regards to my TOM. Grateful that I have a normal flow, but at the same time that doesn't mean I have to enjoy the problems with a normal flow. I meant it to be funny, not to cause anyone heartache!

Double grumble grumble!!!

Holy crap do I ever relate right now. I have an IUD, so I don't ever get a full on period (thankfully) But then I forget that I will still be b*tchy, moody, irritable, irrational, crampy, grumpy, hungry, angry, ravenous and have no will power (all crammed into a span of 5 minutes too!) Then I remember, crap, I have to deal with this every damn month. I have noticed these emotions/feelings/bingeing have a direct correlation with the numbers on the scale! Thankfully (for me) the hormonal rollercoaster really will only last a few days (feels like weeks!) Now that I am charting my progress, in theory, I should be able to better anticipate these monthly happenings (didn't keep track of TOM before) and MAYBE be a little more emotionally prepared for it... like I said... in theory :)

FickleHearts - I totally enjoyed that :)

My letter (thanks for the inspiration)

Dear TOM,

I don't need you any more. It was good to have you keeping me working so I could produce my (totally awesome absolutely fantastic) kids. But I'm done with that.

I even underwent an endometrial ablation because you were too intense--but you still wouldn't go away.

I'm done with you--done, I say.

Go away.

Grumbling right along with you.Mine is a whole week early...really not liking the whole getting older thing,because now TOM decides to show up early or late :mad: I should have known too...because I ate ALL WEEKEND LONG :(

yep. I'm 50, almost 51 and I'm not birthing another kid. I've had my period for 39 years now. That's enough.

Well I am at that glorious stage in life where my periods are irregular and I have random hot flashes. On some wonderful days I have both. At the same time.

The scale reflects every period with a 2-3 pound weight gain but I ignore it and stay on plan knowing in a couple of days those pounds will leave and usually take a friend or two along with them. :)

Thankfully the hormone shifts become less jagged all the time so the mood swings aren't too extreme. This too shall pass and in its own good time.

I never thought I'd say this in a million years but I am DYING for a normal period, a real period even!!

My body is so out of whack with hormones after stopping some meds I was on so now I don't know what end is up. The meds I was on killed everything inside (no period symptoms, no crying, no moodswings, no bloating, but also no sex drive). Except for the sex drive thing, it was awesome. It must be what a man feels like everyday LOL!

I only have to deal with this about another month so I can get the levels all tested and hopefully onto pregnancy-land, God willing. At this point, a month is nothing!

Be happy you have a normal period, it means you are healthy!!!!

Sorry to rain on your TOM pity-party-----love you guys!!!:hug:

Grumble Grumble indeed -_- this was me all week. I was freaking out because I was following my plan (with the exception of a small amount of chocolate on day 1) and suddenly I was back up three pounds. >=O I stepped off my scale, climbed into my bed and just cried. I was dangerously grumpy LOL.

It ended yesterday. I was hanging on to 3-4 pounds of just water.

Hang in there!!

I'm not sure if my TOM is really regular. Sometimes I think it's just dressing up in costume, masquerading as the real thing. I'm not sure if I'm really ovulating. I need to start charting.

I'm looking forward to vicariously enjoying your pregnancy. Babies are the best!

The first time I was pregnant, I loved being pregnant. The second time, I hated it. But I got perfect babies out of both times, so I consider it an absolute win.

Lunarsongbird---when it's time to start really charting for baby planning, make sure you check in with your doctor. I thought I was tracking my ovulation perfectly and it turns out that I was never ovulating at all! I told my doc I could tell I *WAS* and she just shook her head and said I couldn't have been.

I know you are very knowledgeable with this info but I just didn't want you to waste any time like I did. :)

Thank you Beth!! It will be nothing short of a miracle if I can pull this off! And I will have to be eating healthy for those 9 months so I'll still be here no matter what!

I will only have one shot of ever being pregnant so I am already determined to enjoy every minute of it, even the morning sickness and birth process!

Good to know! I think I'm going to go to an OBGYN next month for a check up. I haven't had a pap in quite sometime. So the midwife I'm interested in recommended a couple. Maybe I will push it out for a couple months to show them some charts and see what they think.

I had a girlfriend that told me some fertility doctors wont see you if you haven't been charting and "trying" for a year. So I wanted to try my hand at it.

Just to clarify--it was being pregnant that I hated. I got pregnant on purpose. I wanted the baby desperately. I just didn't like being pregnant--been there, done that, give me the baby!

DD, who is 17, loves to tell her friends that I hated being pregnant with her. :dizzy:

Awww, Beth!! I didn't read your message in a bad way!! You seem like a caring and loving person and a good mom, I never thought you meant it anyway but the way you explained it!!

lunarsongbird - does your midwife not do well-woman care? I've almost always seen midwives for my paps/regular exams and I'm a HUGE fan of the midwifery model of care. I felt like I had way more personal attention from the midwives I've seen (I've seen both CNM's and CPM's depending on where I lived at the time) than I ever received from an OBGYN.

Also, I've never charted long term (doesn't work so well when you're a doula dn you might have to get up in the middle of the night to go to a birth!) and have been seen by multiple fertility professionals, so that has to be an office-by-office thing.

Well, I've noticed after losing what I have my physical pms symptom are loads better, I'm not as moody, and my actual flow doesn't last as long. It's the water retention, weepiness, and breast tenderness that drive me batty the most every month! I tell my husband don't even think about touching them or I'll chop your hands off!!! Dr. said that's a good sign of ovulation so I'll just agree with her and go about my business.

Still sucks though and I'm miserable. UGH..... three more days of scale avoidance and crying at the drop of a hat. Not fun.

Breast tenderness can be a good indicator of ovulation because it's caused by progesterone rise, but is by no means a fail-proof way of knowing whether or not you ovulated! If it's driving you crazy wondering whether or not you ovulated you can ask for CD21 blood work and/or ultrasound to confirm ovulation.

This made me crack up to see it in writing, even though I know exactly what you mean!! And God forbid he lean into me reaching for something or something else innocent, watch out!!

I just wish Mother Nature would send me a text, "Hey, good job with NFP, you're not pregnant, chat next month", and that would be that.

I struggled with infertility for almost 10 years with my 1st husband, it was horrible. Charting, temps, tests, heartrending, tearjerking stuff. It's pretty much why our marriage ended, even though we couldn't say it at the time. We also got married very, very young.

Obviously, as I have 3 kiddos, naturally, one of which is a Depo baby, it seems like it took forever, but I just want to encourage you ladies who are struggling, do not EVER give up hope. You can be a mom naturally, or by adoption, it's not -how- a family is created, but that a family was created that matters.

For my youngest, which was an oops, following a loss, I used FertilityFriend, which is basically a tracking app for ovulation, with lessons and tutorials on what to look for, when etc. I was actually charting to see if I had a short luteal phase which would be indicitave of a progesterone imbalance. My progesterone level during the miscarriage was <2 which made it impossible to maintain a pregnancy. Eventually found an AWESOME CMW who helped me see the problem with my past charts and the chart from the month I got pregnant with the loss. Very next month, positive pregnancy test with blood work confirmation and an RX of Prometrium, now I have a happy and loud 10 mos old. All of that to say....just, don't give up.

I had 9 full months of morning sickness when I was pregnant. So bad that I was actually out of work on disability for a lot of it.

My son finds the fact that I was so sick while carrying him very amusing. :eek: