Kids say the darnedest things. As much as we love them - they have NO tact. My son hit my tummy yesterday and asked me why it is so fat? told him that its his fault. When he was in me, he left the space. :).

Sometimes it hurts. Esp picking him up from preschool with these trail of super model thin mom's going for their kids. I try to ignore them and think of the positive.

MY DAUGHTER'S TELL ME THAT WHEN I WALK MY LEGS LOOK LIKE JELLO:mad: EVEN THOUGH IT HURTS ME TO HEAR THAT :cry:IVE THOUGHT IT MYSELF JUST DOESN'T FEEL AS HURTFUL WHEN YOU THINK IT:?:ITS OK JUST BOUNCE BACK:D

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Originally Posted by Daimere:
Me too. It was one of those days I already felt hideous, too. :(

Had a 3 year old ask me the same this weekend. I can;t even remember what I said. But you know what? got on my treadmill and went that extra 15 minutes that night. Felt good. I know I won't always look this way.

A couple of years ago, I was in the locker room of the swimming pool and a little girl asked me if I was pregnant. I said "no, I'm just fat." That seemed to satisfy her. If it isn't mean, it doesn't bother me.

Speaking from experience, I don't for a minute believe it's bad manners or bad breeding (you'll usually hear that from those who have no children), not without knowing the kid better. Kids are just honest, sometimes thats good, sometimes it's not. I'm quite sure the kid didn't mean to hurt your feelings. As another poster said, use this for good. Use this as a motivation tool to get back on your program. It's happened to me, "mel! I didn't even recognize you! Boy you've put on some weight!" and this was from an ADULT! I was upset for about 1 hour, then got back on my program and lost 20 pounds.

My Mom, who was overweight her whole adult life, used to tell us kids not to make fun of fat people or we would end up fat ourselves. We didn't because we believed her, and we all ended up fat. I like to say that to kids though, puts the fear in them :D

Same thing happened with me. I used to hang out at my ex-boyfriend's sisters house a lot, and her kids were small then. The youngest one would always make comments saying "you're fat!" and "why are you so big?" etc. It got to the point where I didn't want to go there anymore x.x At least we broke up, so I don't have to worry about it anymore! :D

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I'll have kids say things like that to me, and I'll just look right at them and say, "yeah I do!" confident as **** and walk off. Like it's been said here, kids are just making observations. They see a big butt, you know you have a big butt, own it. I'm working on getting rid of the big butt, so let them have their say. I'll have mine in the end.

:D Funny.
I do not think it's bad parenting! It's just kids being honest. I can't even begin to tell you some things I hae witnessed kids doing and ultimately embarassing their parents including mine. But if it makes you feel good, I am down more than 80 pounds and my butt is still big! LOL.

I think it hurts extra, BECAUSE it was a child who said it, with no ill will or malice.
When adults make comments like this, you can retaliate (usually in you own mind) by thinking how rude and nasty they are, and what horrible unfeeling manner.
When it is a child though - they are just noticing a reality, and you can't be angry with them for it, and that is what hurts the most.

Comments and looks really get to me, though too, that being said. The thing that bugs me the most is when excercising out in the open, and it happens - you would think these people would think, wow, Fat chick, and look, she's doing something about it, as opposed to wow, fat chick excercising, let's say something mean to her about how fat she is!

haha reminds me of a couple summers ago I used to teach at a kids bike camp. One little four year old was running around and not looking where he was going and ended up bumping into my backside. He said: "Your bum is squishy!" Haha he's gonna be a ladies man that one. lol

A couple months ago, I was having a friendly conversation with a little girl and one of the questions she asked me was "What's wrong with your neck?" I knew immediately what she was referring to - i have a very large double-chin, I've had it my entire adult life. (An old man once asked me if I had a goiter - which I thought was a ridiculously foolish question to ask a person, I mean omg if you're not for-absolute-certain-sure, why the **** would you ask???)

Anyway, it didn't really bother me that this little girl asked about my neck. She was honestly curious as to why I had this protruding flesh below my face. I explained that it was just fat, and I'd had it all my life, and that my mother had the same thing so I guess it's something I got from her. The little girl nodded with a serious look on her face and went on to ask me something else.

I wish I didn't have a double chin but I do. I wish I wasn't fat but I am. The child was just being truthful. How could I possibly be upset about the truth?

I am a nanny and one day, when I was wiping the 3 yr olds butt, he asked me why my stomach was so big (his mom is a size 5).... And I wanted to be like why can't you wipe your own butt, but I just explained to him that everyone comes in all different kinds of shapes and sizes. And he was fine with that.

I remember years ago I was at a grocery store and a small child asked his mom why some people had fat legs and some had skinny legs. That lives with me even today. It used to bother me. Now I use it as motivation. I want to the the one with the skinny legs. And you know what? I will be and so will you!

I'm sorry hun. It sucks! But I do have to say, I was motivated to change my life by a comment my grandma made about my weight. It helped me really plug in to my weightloss effort and get going!