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  • Quote: Hello
    I, like most people in my family have been struggling with my weight for quite a while...pretty much my whole life. I can't remember when I was under 200lb. I was pretty luck b/c not many people picked on me, but that is b/c I was always the tough kid and I think people might have feared me slightly. Now that I am in college I have looked back at my life and realized that the reason I was such an angry person was because I kept all of my emotions on the inside. I never talked about not being able to go to the mall with my friends and buy clothes, how in gym class I was always the last one to finish the mile. I kept everything on the inside and as a result I created my shell. My mother had gastric bypass 2.5 yrs ago and when I saw the results it hurt me, i almost felt like she left me hanging in the rafters because I was still obese and she wasn't. I have realized that what she did was not the easy way to fix her weight or her health issues, but at the same time I feel like my entire family judges me because she lost all this weight and there I am, her 19 year old daughter still over weight.
    I know I need to live my life for me and not for what people expect of me but its hard always being compared to everyone else. Recently I have started the Alli pills to help me in my weight loss, some have told me I am choosing an easy way out but I don't think that I am. Everyone around me always relies on me for guidance but when I need some I don't know where to turn. That is why I found this place. I enjoy being able to discuss problems with people that know what I am going through or have had similar issues. Now that I have ranted on and on, I hope that I will be able to stick to the new Alli plan and manage to lose the weight and keep it off.

    welcome! This is an amazing place to find support. I know some of which you are going through. I hated when all my friends would go shopping, I would go to places like american eagle, head to the guys tshirts and look for the double xl. the only clothing that fit me in a store like that. I still can't fit into the likes of womens clothes from there, but hopefully soon enough I will.

    again, welcome, you are going to love it here. post often so we get to know you better!!
  • welcome! i have to say that your post is so thoughtful and i wish i had your level of insight at 19! I think just knowing that you keep your feelings bottled up and recognizing some of the emotions you have, the anger, sadness, abandonment, etc will actually help a great deal in your journey to weight loss. i think this forum will be a great place for you to practice opening up about what you are feeling and hopefully that will translate to other areas of you life. Good luck!
  • Welcome, mashfreak077!! I have to say, I can reeeally relate to almost everything you said in your first post. I can't remember the last time I weighed under 200 lbs, either--seriously, I have no idea when I "crossed over," because there was a 4-5 year period in which I didn't weight myself at all! We also have very similar starting weights (I started at 263 lbs) and we're close in height... And I'm 19, too! So far I've managed to lose a little over 60 lbs, and every day I'm getting closer and closer to entering Onederland for the first time in at least 7 years. I don't want to sound like a total cornball, but I just want you to know that if I can do it, so can you! You'll find that 3FC is one of the greatest resources a gal can have when she's trying to lose weight... Everyone here is so kind and supportive - both of losses and the occasional gain (which you will experience, I'll just warn you now! lol) - and no one mocks you for asking stupid questions! It's so great that you've made the decision to get healthier, and taking the Alli pills sounds like a great start, provided that you're also eating right and exercising. And no, it certainly doesn't sound like the "easy way out" to me! Whatever works, right?

    Welcome again!! Hope to see you around the forum in the future!
  • This is such a wonderful place, I really do love it here. What you are doing is great! There is nothing wrong with using and aid if it teaches you to eat healthier. I havent tried the alli pills but from what I understand they just give you a harsher consqeunce if you overdue your fat intake. Nothing wrong with that! Pretty soon it will be second nature to know how much fat you should have and you won't need the pills either. You seem like you have a great head on your shoulders and I am looking forward to sharing your journey with you.
  • Thank you so much for that...it is nice to see that someone who is in a similiar situation as me can do it. I was wondering if u r at college...how do you stick to an eating plan...I am having difficulty where I am
  • Welcome!

    I'm impressed that you are already starting out looking at the emotional impact obesity has had on you
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  • Welcome!!! I too am pretty new to 3FC and already can tell you this is such a great support system!! I think you're really gonna like chatting with the women in this forum. THey're great! And 3fc almost serves as a reminder to me everyday that I'm on a diet and I'm gonna stay on that diet. People around you often get sick of hearing about your diet 24/7 so this is such a great outlet for all that chatter!!! It def keeps my butt motivated!