Hi Dek6,
I don't know what to say to you, but I totally feel for you. I have been heavy all my life too and just started doing something about it.
I know that my weight has made me unhappy to the point where I would say things to family members and hurt them or make them made.
My husband sounds like yours. When we were first married I would say and do things just to make him mad and he wouldn't even do or say anything to me. I realize I was being stupid.
Let me tell you what i figured out. I believe in God, and one day I realized that there is nothing I can do that will ever make my husband mad at me. And what I was shown was that God was using my husband to show me how much He loves me not matter what I did, no matter what I looked like or no matter what I'd say.
That's what I know and believe. So just remember that no matter what God loves you and you are of value to Him. When you hurt like this He wants to comfort you.
He has done that for me and I'm continually growing and learning this. So now I see myself as a woman of worth and you are too. Don't ever forget that. God gave you your husband to express the love He has for you.
YOu are blessed and that's His goodness.
So now I'm dieting and doing Atkins, it's helping me alot and I'm feeling really good. I see you have lost some weight, that's really fantastic.
Don't get down because you're progressing, you are work in progress, we all our.
You can do this, you really can!
Take Care!