Originally Posted by KindaSortaAthlete
I also think people have a distorted view of what healthy looks like. Maybe people have gotten used to what overweight/obese folks in society look like and now healthy weight folks look "too skinny".
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Originally Posted by pnkrckpixikat
THIS... this is what I believe 100% is happening
I think you're absolutely right. Healthy weight in a normal sense probably = lean, mean musculature and very little body fat. And we're just not used to that at all. In fact i think i could possibly lose maybe a couple more pounds and it be OKAY. But i was afraid to say that for fear that maybe i was or will develop body dysmorphia which i don't think i have... And i'm going to do what *I* feel is best for me, even if it does mean my face isn't nearly as pretty as it was or it looks radically different...well that's life, too bad. My focus really is on being healthy and lean now.
Absolutely agree with everyone else. You look fabulous and far, far younger than you say. I can't believe that they're saying you look too skinny, I disagree - you look healthy, certainly not underweight. To echo what's already been said, it's probably because of a comparison from the "old" you to the "new" you, or the fact that the average person these days is far from a healthy weight (so our idea of what "healthy" looks like is likely distorted.)
I would agree with the other comments. You look great. That said your face may seem somewhat emasculated to people are not used to you looking this way.
When your weight loss levels out, most people's faces tend to look more "normal". You have so much blood flow going through and around your head that most people will lose fat from there before other places.
I'm getting some of the same comments and like you, I have the feeling that my face looks bony (you don't look bony by the way) and my bones stick out in some places and I have the veiny hands...it's like you wrote your post about me
Anyway, you look terrific, not too skinny or bony. Great work.
In our society you can never win. One good thing about being fat is that fat makes our skin look fantastic, our face is nice and plump and smooth. When we lose that after our 30's we start to look a little older. I have run into various friends of my age and older that have lost a significant amount of weight and honestly, I've thought to myself that they look older, that their face is gaunt and that they don't look as "healthy" as they used to. It's NUTS and I hate myself for even thinking it. But that's how our society works my friend, women are always the object of scrutiny no matter their age, weight, or intelligence. We are trained to scrutinize women first. Watch the documentary Missrepresentation and you'll see what I mean.
But I'll call you out on your bold faced lie at once. There is no way you are 51. You're a college student for sure. Divorce your old wrinkly husband and go to a frat party and live it up because you look like a cheerleader. You go girlfriend!
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Susie - Looking at your pictures makes me want to go to the gym and work out! LOL If I could look like that I would be bowing down to the gods. You have done a great job and look wonderful.
I think you should print out one of those height/weight charts that are available all over the internet and show your husband and friend what the healthy weight range should be for your height. That should shut them up.
Last edited by Wannabehealthy; 07-02-2013 at 09:01 AM.
I'll add my two cents worth -- YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!! I think you have a consensus here that your body looks great and I seriously thought you were in your late 20s, maybe early 30s. Print off all of these comments and then hand them to anyone who tells you you're getting to skinny.
I agree with what others have stated: First, you are gorgeous and look about twenty years younger than you are (I'm jealous---I am 45 and look older than you!)
I, too , got those same comments when I first reached my goal weight. My sisters, my husband, and even a co-worker either flat out told me or hinted strongly that I was too thin (I am 5 ft 3 and 135-140 lbs---so obviously not "too thin"). However, besides the fact that they were used to me 50 lbs. larger, I really think that when some people first lose weight, they do look more gaunt. Later, as they "settle in" to their maintenance weight, their body/face sort of "catches up" with their maintenance weight and they look "normal" again. That is exactly what happened to me. I never get those "too thin" comments anymore. Not that you look gaunt at all---far from it.
After seeing other people that said even their significant others gave them the "too skinny" comments, I may choose to NOT let my DH be the one I trust to tell me if I am pushing too far. I may leave it up to you chickies and have a post or two like this as i get within range!
