Some of you made me laugh out loud! Gotta love 'em as brutally honest as they are.
I had round two today. We went to the park. On the way home I had taken off my hoodie and was just wearing a tank. As I reached out to undo her car seat she grabbed my saggy batwing and said "why is this so big"?. And I was thinking of going sleeveless. Here I was thinking like I looked good today.
My nearly 3 year old daughter, just 2 days ago, was in the bath. She pointed to her chest and said "I have small booboos (boobs), mommy you have fat booboos". My father in law taught her the word fat pretty recently, referring to his "fat belly", I could just kill him, it's like he taught her it's ok to say demeaning things about yourself. Meh, I don't really care if she says it to me, it's an observation and it's true, she doesn't mean it as an insult. But there's been a few times she's said "Mommy I have a fat belly", which of course she doesn't!
My son goes to a private school in a nice area of London. All the kids are incredibly healthy and good looking. Except for one fat kid. (Although he's slimmed down a lot since the beginning of the year). They are only 4-5 yrs old, so it's pretty sad that this kids is so fat (I mean very). Lately he's been telling me that he doesn't like this kid - X. I've been trying to talk to him about it. He says he and his friends don't like X because he's fat.
Once when I was trying to talk to him about it - he just turned to me and said "You're fat, too.
The next time it came up I tried to compare it to my situation. I said "I'm the fattest of all the moms" (It's true!) and "What if all the other mommies said they didn't like me because I'm fat."
He says "They wouldn't do that!" And I expected an opportunity to talk about being mature and valuing people for more than their physical appearance. So I said "Why wouldn't they?"
One was last summer (when I was about 20-30lbs heavier), and I had taken my little cousin (who was about 8 at the time) to the pool to go swimming. Her mom had let me borrow a bathing suit, and it was about a size too small so it was a bit snug. Well, while we were at the pool, my cousin looked me up and down (knowing that the bathing suit was too small) and in a snotty tone said, " Uh, yeah, that bathing suit is WAY too small!" I felt self conscious the rest of the day and didn't want to do any swimming after that because I felt so bad about myself.
Another time, years ago when I was about 16, I was babysitting my other little cousins who were then about 7 and 4. They wanted to act out scenes from the movie "Home on the Range", and the older one immediately said to me, "You have to be [insert character's name here] because she's big and fat like you!" I don't remember the name of the character, but she was the biggest, fattest cow in the movie and I instantly went from to . However, my cousin redeemed herself cause she caught on to this and was like, "NONONO! We're not trying to be mean, we actually really like [character], she just happens to also be big like you!" So I felt better, lol.
When I was around 13 I had a 6 year old girl ask me whether I "liked" being fat. And at that stage I wasn't really fat, just a little chubby. You can imagine how that bolstered my tenuous teenage confidence.
And last year while standing in a store a little girl, around 3 years old, came in with her dad and starting pointing at my a*s shouting "big bum! big bum!" Seriously, I was like OMG, this is so humiliating. But did I do anything about it? No.
Still, that's what I'm here for. Hopefully those awkward moments will soon be a thing of the past.
A few years ago, on a small vacation at a lake, My 4 year old got onto a little outboard boat with her Dad to do a little fishing. When they got back a couple hours later I walked to the dock and picked her up as my husband went back out for a couple more hours We started the short walk to our cabin and I asked her if she'd had a good time. Within earshot of a young couple that had started fishing at the shoreline, she replied "Yeah Mom! The water is shorter today. it didn't come up high on the boat like when you came yesterday! I guess the boat feels better today 'cause it went faster too." I didn't look back to see the reaction of the couple but I laughed so hard, I was in tears.
While trying to maneuver through a tightly-packed dollar store at the mall, I heard an innocent little voice utter, "Mommy, that lady's fat!" I sort of froze into place as the mother harshly shushed the kid.
I knew he was right, as I was about 360 pounds at the time. But there's nothing like hearing somebody point it out for you.
Lol! My 6 year old son said to me a while back " mummy why are you SO fat while I'm so thin!" and I was around 127 lbs I was barely overweight..
Well - that shows you how perspective skews things. Kids are smaller even if we ARE thin. If a kid says you have big hands or big feet we dont think "they think we are fat!" but if they say you have big middle we do. Even though, yes, adult middles are supposed to be bigger. I think dd has about a 20 inch waist.
My favorite - and honestly I cant even remember if I was heavy or not at the time was when I think my dd was still using the potty chair she said "I have a tiny (said in a tiny voice) potty for my tiny bottom and you have a GREAT BIG (said in a booming voice) potty for your GREAT BIG bottom."
This isn't weight related, but I had this conversation with my DD when she was about 4 years old. The grandmother in question was her dad's mother.
DD: Who is older? You or Grammy?
Me: Who do you think is older?
DD: Well, Grammy looks a lot older, but she doesn't have any little kids yet, so I think you must be older than her.
Never get upset by the perspective of a small child. They have limited experience on which to base their conclusions!
Well, don't feel too bad...I was once asked by an adult (my husband's boss) when the baby was due. In front of a pretty large group, too. I just said she was 4 months old now and cute as could be. I'm not sure which one of us was more embarrassed.
When my son was about 5, I noticed a stray chin hair in the car. After I plucked it, he asked why I got hairs on my chin like Shaggy on Scooby Doo! Ouch. Stupid PCOS.
At least with kids it's innocent. I once had a friend's father come back from a work trip after getting his stomach stapled (he was very morbidly obese), telling his wife and children how good they looked and how thin, and then stared right at me and said "you look like you've put on some pounds". Everyone just sat there silently. At the time I was 15 and about 135 pounds.
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. However, my cousin redeemed herself cause she caught on to this and was like, "NONONO! We're not trying to be mean, we actually really like [character], she just happens to also be big like you!" So I felt better, lol.
