I have lost 40 pounds since February of this year. I did this by taking a hard look at my relationship with food, and identifying how that needs to change in order to be healthy.
One thing that helped me is getting over my thinking that if I eat a "bad" food, then the whole day is "ruined" so I might as well eat ALL the bad food I want, and "start again" tomorrow. This unhealthy thinking kept me overweight for most of my life, with some months here and there of being at an 'ideal' weight after successfully crash dieting. But the weight always came back on. Always. Because I never stopped to realize that my problem was primarily how I was *thinking*, not necessarily what I was doing, in regard to food. The thinking comes first, and the thinking was not good.
So rather than focusing primarily on what I'm eating, and losing weight, this go-round, which will be the LAST, I have promised myself - I am focusing more about eliminating the bad behaviors that contributed to my problem in the past. I find that "clean eating" definitely builds momentum, and when I've eaten "clean" for a period of time I stop craving unhealthy foods all together, which makes things easier. And if I'm out of my controlled enviroment, for instance if I'm traveling and eating out a lot and eating healthy is not as easy as it is at home, I give myself a break and resist giving into the "this day's ruined, I'm going to eat everything" mentality. For instance this past weekend I was visiting relatives out of state and we went out to dinner. I had some fried calamari as an appetizer. In the past, giving into this temptation would have led me to make bad food decisions throughout the rest of the meal, and the rest of the day. But instead, I factored that choice into my calories for the day, and I had a salad for an entree - I even had a few bites of creme brulee for dessert! But that's the key - I had a few bites, not an entire serving PLUS a few bites from everyone else's dessert which is what I would have done in the past. I am starting to "get" the big picture and the result is a slow but steady weight loss.
I would have to say that getting over the "this day's ruined" thinking has been the most crucial part of my weight loss this year. Also exercising has allowed me to get in touch with my body, and appreciate it, rather than hating it - as a result, I no longer want to abuse it with poor food choices.
Search for the forest and the trees will naturally bloom
What is causing you to want to make poor or thoughtless food choices? Why are you neglecting your body's need for healthy food and exercise? Spend some time thinking about this before you go searching for the quick fix - because quick fixes will break very quickly and you'll be right back where you started. Make your goals realistic - 5 pounds at a time, even ONE pound at a time! And you will get where you need to be in due time - and most importantly, stay there for life.