I still have a ways to go weight loss wise, and I do feel like I need to be more mindful of my calories and exercise in order to consistently lose weight. I tried to get around that, feeling like I was being too obsessed, but maintained instead of lost weight.
There's a book (and theory of approach) called Overcoming Overeating
http://www.overcomingovereating.com/ They deal with dieting and body image.
you know, the time and effort put into taking care of a kid or parent, an animal/pet, garden, or even a car can feel like a labor of love. We're just as worth it if not more (if you don't take care of yourself first...) When a car or garden (or even a pet that gets bad habits) gets out of whack, it may take more of an effort for a while to get it back in balance. Like a mindset and metabolism.