I'm The Sandwich Generation, parents ,me and children.
I am my mom's Primary Caregiver ..she lives with us for years now since she can no longer live on her own. This has been a blessings and a major challenge at times. My mom has a significant health history...that now has both physical and cognitive challenges.
I feel like a Juggler just trying to keep all the balls in the air!
Sometimes I wish there was 2 of me 1 to go to work and the other to take care of the family. Too bad all the weight I lost could not have been turned into a Clone and given me a helping hand....well at least I'm not lugging all that extra weight on my back.
So are any of you your parent's caregiver and working and have husband and kids ? Sometimes I think I'm not doing as much as I should/ want to do!
I have responsibilities to everyone ....I want to be a Dutiful daughter,a good spouse and a good mom..... And trying not to short change anyone.
I work nights so I can be home during the day for my mom and my husband is home with my mom. At night...and he is so good with her.
My mom today is having Altered Mental Status changes...it breaks my heart that I can't comfort her,and help alleviate the fear she is experiencing... We have been through this before..so I know the routine.
When people have cognitive issues .the world is not supportive...it's something no one wants to see.
Please pray for my mom that she gets some comfort.
My grandmother had Alzheimer's and lived with us and we have dealt with the struggles and hard break of seeing someone slip away right in front of your eyes and that is so hard on families ...and not all family members can cope with the stress that is a natural result of the illness.
I pray God will give me strength and wisdom to endure watching my beloved mother go down this path. I am grateful to walk this walk with her..I just feel like my heart is being ripped out of my chest...
My family is from the south ..and it is traditional for the daughter to take care of their parents..my mom was a very dutiful daughter...I pray I will be enough...
My mom is like a cat with 9 lives she has bounced back when ..it was doubtful..we have a wonderful Doctor that I used to work with in the hospital ICU when he was a Resident ..and he is so compassionate.this is a blessing to have him managing my mom's healthcare needs.I have been training my dogs to be therapy dogs and their interaction with her gets more of a response then with people.
I will wait till Doctor's office opens up ...it is better than taking her through ER
Because that can be very stressful for her.
Thanks guys for listening ...I have to keep my game face on and focus on getting through this ...
Roo2
Oh and last night driving home from Dog class a group of deer ran across the road and one smashed into the left side of my car ...and had to call the police
Before they came I got out to see if deer hurt and the herd came back and tried to charge me ...I jumped back in my car..
We are expecting a snow storm ....and I got to go back to work tomorrow.
There use to be an old commercial for Calgon bath salts .So. Calgon take me away!!!