Okay, so I've already dropped this issue and am not saying anything to anyone about it but i just want to know how other people view this. Anyways...
My brother is getting married (Saturday!!! eek!) and I am a bridesmaid. There are 3 of us- her sister, my sister, and me. There are 3 groomsmen as well. Her sister has a steady boyfriend and 2 of the 3 groomsmen are married. Well, I saw the guest list the other month ago (this was awhile ago haha) and the other groomsmen is listed as So-and-so and guest while my sister and I are listed without guests. Personally, I am kind of offended. Yeah, i didn't have a boyfriend 2 years ago when this was being planned, but as a 20 year old woman I think I should have been allowed to have a guest come with me. (plus my sister is 23, and the groomsman is 25 so not that big of a difference. why him and not us? he's single too)
I really just want an opinion on whether or not the bridesmaid/sister of the groom should be allowed to bring a guest, but now for a little venting...i did not even receive an invitation to the wedding. one was sent to my parents but did not list "and family" plus i don't live with my parents. i live in another state at school. the bride will not talk to me. she communicates with my mother (because you know i'm 12) and my mom doesn't realize this so she doesn't "pass it on." the bride picked out really expensive bridesmaids dresses and we had to pay for our own (again, i'm in college) the dresses are brown so i had to buy brown shoes. in addition i had to buy 2 shower gifts, wedding gift, gas for 5 hour trip each way to get to the second shower and the actual wedding, make-up, hair (WE are paying to get our hair done at HER salon of choice), outfit for the rehearsal, and all the other little things. I only have 1 brother so you know I'm not upset about paying for some things, it just kind of puts me over the edge that I'm not allowed to bring a guest. I'm spending close to $1,000 so yeah, it kind of pisses me off (but she's buying our jewelry and purse because that will SOO help...not!) and then being selfish, i also know that my brother has made sure his groomsmen are not spending a lot of money so the fact that the single one gets to bring a date and is spending less just kind of burns the sizzle.
I love my brother but i'm sooooo effin' stressed and tired and trying to get everything done so I'll "be a good bridesmaid" and be a good student because hello I'm still in college!!!! why do i have to tests sandwiching the wedding?!?!
and yeah, i know it's pathetic that i'm upset about not having a guest invited even though i had already decided it'd be too stressful to have a date that night but whatever!!!
oo and while i have your attention... the bride is getting our jewlery and i don't know what she is getting, but i only have one "real" piece of jewlry that my parents gave me for my 18th birthday which means a lot to me. i would rather wear that necklace but would that be rude if i wore mine instead of one she gives me? or is that okay?