I had a date yesterday and of course, since we were at Starbucks, I had to mention that I'm on a diet, and he responds, as so many men I have come across have said, "oh, you're fine." What exactly does THAT mean? Does that mean I'm not too fat that he wouldn't date me, or that he does think I could stand to lose a few, or that he really does think that I'm fine the way I am? Why do guys say that? I've never heard, "oh, you look great -- you don't need to lose a pound, are you kidding me?" That's what I want to hear And I've never heard it. The only guys who have said anything similar are the ones that know I weighed over 300 pounds, but they've still been rude about it. One guy said (when I said something negative about my weight), "you look great now, look at what you used to look like." I was peeved about that. And the other said, exasperatedly, "how could have wasted your good looks looking like that (when I was over 300). That really hurt. What idiots. Don't they think before they open their mouths. Those are not copliments. And then I see my ex-boyfriend today, and he asks me about my walking partner (who's very thin), "is she skinny like you and trying to keep it off? That's so patronizing. I know he's doing that to ruffle my feathers. Boo men.
By the way, those 2 who made the stupid comments were refused second chances with me -- but the date yesterday went very well, and he just called me And even though he annoys me with his little jabs (I get mine in too ), I love my ex to death (we have a very close ex bf/gf friendship). He's an amazing supporter and encourager.