I am infertile, have PCOS, have done every treatment in the book to have a child and it hasnīt work. My husband and I are desperate, but because of our situation (army) we are currently not in the position for a typical adoption.
My SIL (Husbands brother and wife) are expecting their second baby. She is 41 years old and 4 months along with a boy. They did an amnio and found that the baby has down syndrome. They are doing one more test and then aborting the pregnancy as 90% of people with Downīs babies do. I have a mentally ******ed sister and am VERY against aborting a baby because it is not perfect.
I sent my brother in law a very nice e-mail with my sympathy and hoping the test was wrong and so on, advising how rewarding a persons with disibilities life can still be, and that if they felt they were unable to take on the respincibility of a special needs child that his brother and I would like to adopt the baby.
I canīt stop thinking about this! I have been crying and it is effecting me so much, that they want to just throw him away because heīs not perfect. I also, understand it is a huge life-long deal and not all people can cope with that commitment. But, My hubby and I can.
Was it wrong to e-mail asking for them to consider letting us have the baby and not to terminate? Should I stay out of it, or push further? I would love to have him.
What would you do?