I think I'm in minor freak-out mode here, so bear with me...
I went into my first pregnancy carrying 20 extra pounds, gained 50, and with some help (and a lot of work!) got back to a healthy weight. I was a healthy weight for the first time since HS, 15 years previous. (230ish->162)
With LO#1 I was on bed rest at 32 weeks... certainly did NOT help. DS was 9# 8 oz - all of the babies on DH's side are huge and we're both athletically built. Small babies are not in the cards here, lol. But still, I was on the "almost too much" weight gain line even before bed rest... if I'm completely honest it was probably a bit too much.
I'm currently W12 with LO#2. I've gained 10 pounds, so on the top side of ok (again!) but it makes me a little nervous. Of course my belly is popping earlier and I'm fighting my wardrobe. The short of it, is that I'm paranoid that I'm going to gain 50 again. I don't mind gaining, of course the baby's health comes first. I'll lose it again if I have to. So for me - it's not a matter of gaining or not gaining, I'll gain. It's fearing excessive gain and having to bust tail all over again, at an older age (I'll be 34) with two little ones instead of one.
Add on top of it... I have to undergo two glucose tests to be sure I don't have gest'l diabetes. I was healthy with DS but I think they're being super-cautious due to the excessive weight gain with DS. I got some advise about not too many carbs... it took about 24 hours to sink in and I freaked out kind of hard about the "if you want a small baby" info.
So here's the question... if pregnant women aren't "supposed to" diet and if we're not "supposed to" track food/calories then how the heck am I not "supposed to" gain too much weight? If I had such a great sense of what to eat/not to eat I would never have had the 50# gain the first time and I wouldn't have had to move from maintenance to diet mode earlier this year. (I was 5 over and needed to nip it in the bud - so a healthy keep-in-check thing).
I guess I'm a bit angry at the system for so many contradicting messages.
So how did you all deal with gaining a healthy amount of weight? (I guess it's almost more of a "how" since I'm ok with gaining part.)
Thanks for listening...