.... so.... I have a 22 pound 3 1/2 month old who only wants me to hold him all day.... and I eat chips ahoy like potato chips....
I AM GOING NUTS!!!
I ordered an Ergo Sport baby carrier from myfavoritebabycarrier.com and it came and I can't use it. There is a defect in design, admitted by the customer service guy I talked to yesterday, when I finally was able to talk to someone because I couldn't use the sleeping hood.
And, what is most annoying, is when I pulled the thing out of the box to try out, and put my baby in it, he fell asleep in minutes. But then I had to take him out of it because I couldn't use the sleeping hood.
So here I am, with this carrier that is brand new, with a baby that will fall asleep in it, but can't use the sleeping hood.... it is pissing me off frankly. And, now the people aren't answering their phone, so I can't even find out if I can exchange the thing or not.
And I just want to eat a cookie....
Anyway, I need something because all I can do is hold this baby and eat those dam@ cookies. My arms are seriously gonna fall off, and I'm not sure if I'm going to lose my mind before or after that happens.
Isn't there a banging your head on the wall smilie???????
i give up.... since i can still type with one hand for a minute with a screaming baby.... and i've gotten past the crying stage at the moment.... i've decided to keep a tally
Hey girl....I've been there. Admittedly, it was nine (NINE--EEEEEKKKKK!!) years ago, but babies have not changed that much. The only advice I can give you is the throw the cookies out. Trust me. I've recently become a housewife, and nothing has screwed me more. I'm bored out of my mind and all I can think of is food. It's terrible. Finally, I had to get rid off the cookies and buy baby carrots and cut up celery and cucumbers. I cried for a few days, but I am SO happy I did it. You will be too, I promise.
wow... he slept for 5 minutes... now screaming again....
2 more soft & chewy
total:
6 soft & chewy
3 chunky
will have to get my other kids shortly.....
and you know, i'd love to eat something that isn't going to end up making me feel fatter and worse, but i am half out of my mind, with one dam# hand, a screaming baby, and i'm hungry.... won't get lunch today.... or not until after 3 when i can force one of my older kids to hold the baby for 5 minutes until they start to complain so much that i take the baby back.... and eat more cookies
there are only 3 soft & 4 chunky left thiugh, so i should have to figure out something by tomorrow
edited to update totals.... adding a chunky; adding soft/chunky
Last edited by 2Tired; 03-10-2009 at 09:35 PM.
Reason: updating totals again
I want to thank gaarmywife2007 for responding and offering support as I was freaking out the other day. I appreciate it.
I've come to the conclusion though, that what I need in reality to help me is someone. Someone I can call when I'm spiraling down because the baby has been crying at me all day, when I haven't gotten to eat anything until lunchtime and I am starving so I grab what I can eat in one hand..... or like today, when I've got my other two kids home sick from school, the baby urps all over me, the baby poops out his clothes as I have the 2nd DVD player break that is playing a movie for the other sick kids, my phone breaks, and on and on.
It isn't going to happen for me though. I don't have anybody to call, that will come over, hold the baby so I can pee, or grab a bowl of cereal, or take a shower.... and, I will continue to be stuck, not eating until I'm ready to inhale whatever is closest and only takes 2 seconds to eat, and one hand. Which for me, is cookies.... and anything that is chocolate.
And, while it makes me sad in a larger sense, I think that I am okay with the realization that I need something like an AA sponser that you call when you are about to go off the wagon and can talk you down.
So, I guess this place really isn't the right place for me. I wanted to thank you and for the other woman, in that other thread, who eats sandwiches like I eat my cookies/chocolate, who if you have someone close to you, a friend, or a family member, that you can call when you want to eat a sandwich, or when you have had it, call them. Ask them to come over.
Breastfeeding is demanding. It takes a lot out of you. I've done it with two other children, I'll do it again with my third. And, I think I just was unrealistic to think that I could also take on eating/weight loss while I was at it.
Thanks though. I wish everyone else success in their endeavor to gain control of their life and health.
This is Shawn the customer service person for My Favorite Baby Carrier, I would really like to talk with you about the problems you are having with the Ergo carrier. Please contact me by email at shawn @my-favorite-baby-carrier.com or by phone at 1-800-485-5228. Please understand that if I do not answer I may be on another call but if you leave a voicemail I will get back to you very shortly.
Looking forward to helping you
Shawn
myfavoritebabycarrier.com
To be fair.... just seeing this.... my beef is with the carrier. But, the myfavoritebabycarrier.com site has worked with me to fix things. SOOOOO....... I will stand by my issue with the product that I ordered, but have appreciated the help from the site.
I wish I had seen this earlier... 2Tired, I've been there... I had a colicky baby and a jealous 2 1/2 year old who decided to drop his nap, which meant no rest for me. Those first few months are the WORST, take it easy on yourself. I know what it's like not to be able to get a moment even to put a coherent sentence together (on no more 2 1/2 hrs of sleep a night no less) Nevermind trying to inhale something that isn't nailed down before you chew off your own arm. Your body is in pure survival mode and looking for instant energy and pronto. And honestly how can you make a sandwich or any other kind of regular meal one-handed? It is beyond me how there are overweight mothers, we barely eat, barely sleep and our rear-ends barely see a couch/chair etc. not to mention breastfeeding uses up a bazillion calories a day, it's no wonder you're frazzled! If I were you I would give it just a little more time, and maybe not worry so much about your caloric intake so much as replacing the cookies with healthier one-handed options, nuts are good, fruit that doesn't have to be peeled, like grapes, blueberries, maybe boil and peel some eggs and keep them in your fridge. Be kind to yourself and things will look alot brighter when you've got some sleep under your belt. It DOES get better!
2Tired, Please don't go away! I too, have that 'cookie problem' in my house. I tend to grab whatever I can when I am stressed, rushed or just bored. I do not keep sweets and other forbidden food in the house anymore, whenthe family need to have a treat, then I will go buy it, but I make sure that there is nothing left over for me. Doing it this way means I have to walk to the shop, so I get that extra excercise as well. That works to a certain extent. Sometimes there is a cookie left, and really, having just one is not going to add up to 10lbs... Now WHERE did I leave my willpower dust?!
2Tired its me the sandwich lady -- i don't think i can pm you but email me at meganbee at gmail dot com and we can exchange numbers and all that so we can talk. I don't mind talking around a fussy baby - I have one myself.
You guys are so nice! Thank you for soooo getting it! And for being so supportive. Joining this site was kind of difficult for me.... I never really had food issues until later in my life, with kids.... and had always watched my Mom as she struggled with her weight and food. I never figured that it would be me struggling, and I guess it took awhile for me to really want to join anything that dealt with it.
I do have to say I feel way better today though.... and definitely a bit more positive. I got to exchange the Ergo for another one of their models, and it is fantastic! Way, way, easier to use.... I foresee my son living in it, and I think I'm going to at least be able to do something around my house.... including being able to use 2 hands to make something healthier to eat, when I'm actually hungry instead of waiting until I'm famished and ready to knaw my leg off.
And, I figure that what I'm going to try to do, is do something every time I go for a cookie or chocolate, like walk up and down a flight of stairs or vacuum, or something. Then, everytime my other kids are making me so stressed that I want to go and eat something I shouldn't, I'm going to go outside for a few minutes and prune something in the yard, or rake, or pull weeds.... just anything... outside..... letting them bicker with each other... away from my ears!!!!!
I was also kind of toying with the idea of being able to walk on the treadmill or use an elliptical machine with the baby in the carrier too..... but I think I want to wait until he is ready to be carried on my back. But, I am really looking forward to being able to just DO SOMETHING again!!!!
For me, it has been so hard to not be able to really do anything, especially during those times when you are actually motivated to do them. That also has stressed me out and made me want to eat.
I almost think I could get some semblance of my sanity back!
I did want to ask you guys about what you are shooting for as far as diets go though. For me, I know that I can't get rid of chocolate in my life forever.... it kind of has to have a place... but, not in the way it does now. But, with the breastfeeding I find that with the baby's eating pattern changes, and how that affects what I need to produce, it also affects how incredibly hungry I get sometimes. Are all of you using different diet plans... like weight watchers, the zone, or some of the other things out there? Or do you plan to?
I kind of feel like something regimented would be really hard to kind of accommodate when you are breastfeeding, and what that does to your body and its fluctuations.
I also am not a calorie counter. For some reason I just can never get into it. But, aren't there foods that you could just eat tons of and not have a problem with? I guess what I'm thinking is the concept from weight watchers of zero point foods (they have that right?).... things that you could really just eat like crazy and not have the same ramifications as you would if it were cookies? I'm just trying to really think of stuff that when you get one of those times, just due to breastfeeding, that you could eat a whole side of beef, what you could actually eat a ton of that wouldn't make you hate yourself the next day.
Anyway... the baby is due to eat.... but, I really did want to thank you guys. And also make sure that I did put the final info about the Ergo carrier ... since I do think it will be a great help to me, and the site was really cool about making sure things got worked out.
OH... and last thing... I get that meganbee (waving hello to my sandwich lady) is another breastfeeding mom, but what about Lila and Leeesa? Is there another spot on the board that kind of deals with just being a Mom and how that affects weight issues? I'm still kind of lost around here....
I am (sporadically) counting calories and trying to sub healthy foods for the junk.
Lately I've been having trouble getting focused. I'm a stay at home mom and my husband's company is having layoffs this week. Today we found out my oldest needs glasses. Monday my middle has an appt with a GI specialist. My youngest keeps getting chest colds with a runny nose & no chance of sleeping. Last week my father-in-law (a long distance truck driver) stayed with us 3 days and our schedules were thrown out of wack. This week my mother is coming into town because we are always together on St Patrick's day (my father died 6 years ago on St Patrick's day and we treat is sort of like a wake day). One of my best friends is battling with depression and I feel so alone. It just feels overwhelming to think about changing my diet. At this point I would settle for getting something done without someone crying on my leg.
So, I've been snapping at my husband and kids and feeling on the verge of tears for the last couple of days and sorta kinda trying to choose healthy stuff and not make a cake and eat it all myself. I keep hoping that there will just be a pause somewhere and so I can focus and pull up some reserve and inner calm and just feel better.
Thanks Tabby. I think with everything it just got to be that last drop of water in the top of the glass, and then every other drop just blows it and the water spills out all over!
Of course, everything looks better on the weekend for me when hubby is around, and someone else can hold the baby for a minute. He even said to me yesterday that he doesn't know how I can even just deal with the shenanigans of our middle son all day....
But, meganbee, you've got a lot to juggle.... and the whole layoff thing is horrid. We've been living with that hanging over our heads for over a year now. It is like you don't know if it'll be you or not. Something is supposed to be going down at my husband's work in the next two weeks in his division... which was supposed to be safe for longer too. We are just crossing our fingers.
And, you know, it is good that your Mom is coming over (provided that you get along with her). I know there is a bittersweet component to her visit.... we celebrate a holiday too for my Mom. Her birthday was on a holiday, so we kind of celebrate it more to commemorate her since she died. It is a bit melancholy, but with family around you, who are hopefully supportive, it can be a break from the daily grind.
What is your relationship like with your friend battling depression too? I ask because after my Mom died I had depression plus post traumatic stress... but, it helped me to have this one friend who came over and would just hang out with me. Would your friend come over and just hang out with you? It could be helpful for you and for her... but depending on HOW depressed she is.
Anyway... better today... and hopefully if both sick kids are well enough to go to school tomorrow.... even better!
Glad to hear things are looking brighter 2Tired. Well, to answer your question, I'm not breastfeeding anymore, but I was and still am on Weight Watchers. It's taken me over a year to lose 63 lbs, not exactly "falling" off but, after the disastrous first few months after my second son was born, I decided I was in it for the long LONG haul (and I'm not willing to deprive myself entirely of anything) so that slows things a little. But it doesn't stop it, which is a good, so I call that progress and enjoying my life. I'm sort of new around here too, I haven't come across a forum about being a mom and trying to lose weight. But can so relate to meganbee, if there is no sleep and you have cranky/sick kids fighting and/or hanging off of you every minute of the day sometimes you feel like jumping out a window. I find it helps to go outside for a second and take a deep DEEP breath. Hm, baby is up, gotta go...
Still eating cookies, no thanks to Ergo....
-- i don't think i can pm you but email me at meganbee at gmail dot com and we can exchange numbers and all that so we can talk. I don't mind talking around a fussy baby - I have one myself.
