I also think that planning is the key to success. Personally, I like to count calories and focus on whole foods for 90% of my diet.
There are so many things that vary amongst us:
-some like to count points, others like to count calories, others exchanges, etc, but most of us need to count portion sizes somehow
-some of us eat six small meals a day, others eat two large meals, others eat only during a small window of time everyday
-some of us can eat anything as long as it is within our portion limit, but others need or feel better focusing on carbs, proteins, whole foods, etc.
For me, I think that planning became easier a few years ago when my nutritionist said something simple: "make sure half of your plate is comprised of non-starchy vegetables." That was the kicker for me to just make sure that because I didn't want half of my meal being a "side," I make vegetables the star, or incorporate them 50:50 into nearly everything I make, even pasta and rice.
To make my days easier, I cook dishes on weekends then separate them into portions and freeze them in containers. I'm, in essence, making my own freezer meals that work for my dietary plan.
At night, I plan my entire next day in my journal/tracker (just a word document) to make sure that I'm reaching the goals that I want throughout the day. This includes the snacks I plan to eat. If my plan changes a little bit due to something unforeseen, I don't freak out, I just adjust as I see fit. Sometime in the evenings, I pack a bag with all of the snacks/meals I will eat while I'm at work, and I can grab it in the morning before I leave.
It's all a balancing act. There are so many websites (
www.skinnytaste.com,
www.cookinglight.com,
www.eatingwell.com,
www.eatbetteramerica.com,
www.emilybites.com) with a lot of great recipes and ideas that can fit into most healthy eating plans.
Good luck!!