I agree with John. He's interested but not enough to act on whatever attraction he has. Don't react to his flirtations, you'll only end up hurting in the end because if he wanted to be with you, he would be - more often than not, it's that simple.
I also agree that you don't really have to play "hard to get" - it's desperation that is a turn off. And, actually, I watched
a video in which the speaker insisted that "only little boys like to chase" and I tend to agree with that notion. He said not to set yourself up as a conquest because if you do, that's how you'll be treated. Not saying you are OP, I just find his info interesting.
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Originally Posted by mandypandy2246
So what you are saying is ... although we don't realize we are actually giving off these vibes - some girls when interested are giving off signs of desperation ... and when we got over it, we give off signs of indifference/ confidence cause we no longer care ... and they can sense that?
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Let me see if I can give an appropriate example, hmm...
Okay, so I went out with a guy almost a year ago who came on very, very strong. Despite not really knowing that much about me, he seemingly assumed that I was his girlfriend. We moved very quickly and not just into an exclusive status - we never did that at all - but rather his behavior around me was more appropriate for two people who have some sort of history. We had just met.
When I asked him for some space, it went over about as well as a lead balloon. I "disappeared" for about a week, during which I went to work and continued moving into my new place with two new roommates I didn't know and dealt with not just one but two broken down vehicles. I texted him one day to tell him about how I'd gotten an article published online and he wrote back, "I think you have the wrong boyfriend sweetheart.
" ...Wow. As far as I was aware, I was single but somehow I went from solo to cheating trash in about 5 minutes flat...
He reeked, absolutely
stunk of desperation. This whole "relationship" started and ended in under two weeks. Intense much?
You can kind of tell when someone just wants a relationship versus a relationship
with you. They're vastly different. You can also tell when someone has so little self-respect that they'll put themselves through **** to keep eating crap. In the back burner situation, it would be you continually contacting the person, helping them, asking them out, maybe even sleeping with them, consequently doing mass harm to yourself, while still relentlessly continuing on.