I don't know if his girlfriend knows about this.
I guess not, since he does seem to have considered it a date.
(my room mate told me his friend asked him to ask me how I liked the date).
So, by now I really feel bad for that girl.
He's just digging himself in deeper. Can't he ask you DIRECT?
He's sounding more childish by the minute, and if he WERE poly? He so doesn't need to be if he's this childish with it. Learn to play mono well first.
You know that gut feeling you get? Follow it. He may not be playing mind games, he may actually just be that stupid but I think it would benifit you to stay clear of him especially you're feelings towards men already.
I don't have a good thought process when it comes to guys either because the reality is they all act the same. Sure there are "exceptions" but those expections are already married lol! Also just remember if you do end up liking him and he breaks up with his girlfriend for you, who say's he isn't seeing someone else behind your back and doing the same thing?
It's human nature we want what we can't have. The fact that you kept saying no to him because you had other priorities in your life bothered him, so he'll pursue you even harder...the second he has you right where he wanted you (wrapped around his fingers) he'll be a dick and drop you in a second. That's the type of guy he is, and I know that because I've run into SO MANY who are like that.
I think that his probably doing it to boost his own ego since you turned him down so any times he may be doing it to show that you shouldn't of made him wait so long
Or..... maybe his just not that into the current girlfriend his dating and trying to have his options opened as the above comments suggested
Just go with the flow dont mention anything to him he just wants to get a reaction out of you and piss you off , if he asks you out again tell him you dont like the idea of hanging out with a man whos got a girlfriend and just ignore him if he really wanted to have a relationship with you he wouldn't be taken.
i dont know he seems a bit shaddy he asks you out and everything seemed to be going well and all of a sudden he drops a BOMBSHELL on you that he has a gf out of the blue.
well count yourself lucky atleast he was honest enough to tell you at the beginning before you developed any kind of feelings for him my advice RUN!!!!!! he seems like the type of guys who blow hot & cold meaning that as long as you’re with him, you are thrown into a cycle of inconsistency as you deal with the drama, the highs and lows, and the uncertainty.
He seems like a class a emotional vampire and your lucky your seeing early signs now don't waste of your time with this guy his emotionally unavailable. i had to learn the hard way took me some time to move on but lesson learned all i can advice you to ignore him and move on .
Last edited by Fat2slimgirl12; 06-22-2012 at 12:38 PM.
I think the only weird/wrong this about this is that he's calling it a date. I'm in a committed relationship, I live with my bf. I go out for coffee, beer, food, etc, one on one with guy friends and my bf doesn't mind. He hangs out with his female friends and I don't mind. If you're wanting to know what his intentions are, just ask him.
^^This. Especially since he didn't put a single move on you throughout this date. Just ask him what the deal is. I don't think he's necessarily a red flag, guys can have friends, too right?
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Originally Posted by mammasita
In my eyes, it's just unacceptable to hang out one on one with someone of the opposite sex when in a committed relationship.
He's either wanting to get back at you in a passive aggressive manner (he's younger so probably a bit immature) or just wanted to have lunch as friends. He announced that he has a GF so I don't see how he's a cheater. Nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex...If he tries anything further than friends then avoid him but going out for cereal hardly warrants people getting up in arms. Maybe I am missing something here.
the thread is a little bit older, I think I posted it about a month ago. We talked about it (over the phone) a few days ago.
Things with his girlfriend didn't go so well and according to him he just felt like trying to asking me out. Then he felt guilty and so he told me about the girlfriend while we had our date. He said he had been thinking of me a lot after we had met and that was why he asked me to go out again (which I didn't do).Things are still not better with his girlfriend, but he promised her to give the relationship another try.
I told him that I don't like that kind of behavoir. The girlfriend deserves better and I do, too.
Maybe I am missing something here.
