My inlaws are divorced and my mil has married 3 times since. So her dh's do not count, especially since she is now divorced again. I used to call her mom, we used to be really close...until I married her son. She has mental issues, and has stated to dh and to much of her family, that I do not love dh, only she does. She reallllllly does not like me, because dh now has a family and she is not the center of attention. I try to understand, I do encourage dh to go see her..but the last straw was a year ago Thanksgiving, when she faked a mental breakdown, and we spent hours at the hospital with her and finally admitted her into a psych hosp. We spent the holiday away from our kids. What really sealed it for dh was if I was not in the room, she was "comatose" but if I walked in she frowned and made snarling noises. He's had it, she can't accept his family, he says he's done.So no, I do not call her Mom.
My fil I do call Dad. In his own way, he does love me like his own daughter. His wife....well dh won't even mutter anything close to mom at her. She really tried to cast a bad image of their own mother as they were growing up. Even though my mil is screwed up, she still will talk bad about her to dh and his sister. So no, she's not mom either. But his grandma is like a grandma to me, so I do call her grandma...and all his aunts and uncles are my family too.
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