Or how much should I interfere ?
My 17yo DD, is cute, tall, athletic, funny (sarcastic), smart and fun.
However, she has such insecurities when dealing with certain things. She has earned almost full ride scholarship to university with grades, but is still insecure.
She does struggle with acne, but we see dermatologist monthly and it's mostly covered with make-up.
She has a slight hearing loss that makes her voice a little different (pointed out by boys sometime around 7th or 8th grade) she has a slightly receeding chin which is also pointed out by various kids (not her friends).
Before 7th or 8th grade she was confident and outgoing. Since having her "flaws" pointed out by those "nice" kids, it's a constant struggle to get her to go outside her comfort zone. She has several good friends, a boyfriend and of course, her loving parents.
However, yesterday, she commented to me that she often feels invisible. (I have had this feeling myself)
I have been trying to get her to get a job, since school is relatively easy for her and she needs to learn responsibilty outside of home and school. Plus she likes to spend money.
She has plenty of time, since her sport ended fall semester and she doesn't do spring sports. She is fighting me on this every step of the way. One friend who works at a "chuckie cheese" type place, had told her weeks ago to put in an application. She didn't and yesterday we find out they hired 7 people last week. I think she is afraid of failure and afraid of interviewing so she just won't try.
Should I keep pushing ? Should I shut up and leave her alone ? I've thought about getting some adults she doesn't know to practice interviews with but I just don't want to do too much (thus helicoptering) I do like to fix things. She has so much potential and doesn't see things that way.
Thanks for listening. Sorry I know this isn't a parenting forum, but the ones of those I've found just don't have as much feedback as this wonderful forum does.