Originally Posted by Eva03
Can someone who feels stable and secure in where they are tell me how they do it? How do you deal with life obstacles without getting so wound up? I just don't get it and it makes me feel so incapable of changing.
Here's the thing. We're all flawed. We're all secretly scared of not having X or Y skill that other people have. I'm 56 years old now and very successful in my field, IN SPITE of having a boatload of flaws. One of them is poor control of my emotions. Just the other day I cried on the phone to one of my clients! I have lots and lots of other flaws, as my family will be happy to corroborate. I also used to think I would never find love. My first boyfriend (at age 21) once told me he thought he would never get sex except by paying for it.
The good thing is that flaws and insecurities don't prevent people from being successful and finding love -- or else none of us would do it!
Don't let your insecurities get in the way. Accept them like passing clouds, make a plan, and start moving toward it. Your plan may change many times, as mine did (I only got my career act together at age 35), and that's OK.
I hope it doesn't sound trite, but the best advice I have for you is to stop dwelling and start doing. You'll be fine.