[Kaliii]

A lot of people have said something along the lines of, "A person can't lose weight unless they're ready to lose weight and truly want to."

Well the thing is when I was about 12, I had a lot of what I'll call "unwanted sexual advances" by guys from school, all of which happened after I lost weight. I gained back all of that weight, plus around 70lbs, and now that I'm getting close to my goal weight, I'm getting uncomfortable. When I go out places, guys will give me what I call "the perverted stare." They'll do that even when I'm walking with my mother! I get the "up and down look" and even get followed around in stores being given the perverted stare from a distance. What adds to this disturbing me is that a lot of these guys must be in their 30's (I'm 18 and look my age), and sometimes they're even with their young child or wife! It makes me completely disgusted by guys and it makes me want to gain weight so I won't be noticed...these guys are creepy and scare me. I don't know what to do. Any advice?

[Glasgowgirl]

Im so sorry that this happens to so many women. I know this sounds alot easier then it is to achieve, but the only way to combat that uncomfortable feeling is to be confident and comfortable in your own skin. We can not control other peoples action and there will always be someone man or woman who feels that they can objectify you and make you feel small. The key is to not let that happen, and that comes with being okay with y ou and being confident in yourself and the way you carry yourself. People like that want to make you feel creeped out and unsure, its a power thing whether they realize it or not. Take your power back and hold your head high...dont let people who want to make you uncomfortable succeed, you are all the woman you will ever be, be proud of who and what you are. Good for you on your weight loss. Take care of yourself

[dalai_lala]

Yep to Glasgowgirl... Just remember, Kali, that changing you because of something someone else did or does to you gives them power over your life. Don't allow that, keep the power for yourself. You are in control. It's your life and those guys are... creeps.

-Lala

[crisco1]

You need more confidence in yourself. Not all men are looking with evil thoughts in mind. It's like when you stop at a store window to admire something. I too sometimes see a man who I might enjoy looking at with no evil thoughts in mind! And I am happily married. Someone like Brad Pitt or Matthew McConnaghy. I would much rather a man look at me and think "gee she looks good" instead of "Moo".