General chatter - What motivates you on your weightloss journey?

12-31-2013, 07:57 PM
I can say its getting healthy, or feeling good and while those are part of my reasons, I'm really embarassed to admit that my biggest motivation, what really puts a fire under me, is rooted in competition or doing better than people *I don't like*...I do not feel that way about loved ones/friends. But still, ouch, I hate that what gets me to stick to my plans, and work out is wanting to "win" thinner, stronger, healthier, faster (running) warped as it is, I will, without fail, lose weight as long as I remember that losing it will be a big "forget you" to a few people in my life...

What is your motivation?

12-31-2013, 08:30 PM
I'm really embarassed to admit that my biggest motivation, what really puts a fire under me, is rooted in competition or doing better than people *I don't like*

That sounds totally understandable and human. :)

I mainly want to lose weight because I have hopes of achieving some goals that will require me to be fairly fit. I don't want to carry around anymore extra weight than I have to. Earlier this year when I was at my highest weight and really sedentary, I realized that I was drifting further away from my dreams and I'm just not OK with that.

Em Coconut
12-31-2013, 09:28 PM
I'm really embarassed to admit that my biggest motivation, what really puts a fire under me, is rooted in competition or doing better than people *I don't like*

I can really relate to this. In my case, it's mostly to be able to (doesn't mean I will) say "in your face" to people that have treated me bad because of my weight throughout the years. I'll admit that some part of my motivation is to look "hot" to make someone realize what they've missed out on, and that they could've had it if they hadn't been such jerks...Real mature, I know.

However, my biggest motivation is to be able to look good in clothes I actually like, and not feeling like people are looking down on me because I look fat.

I know all this might sound shallow, but actually it has something to do with me developing social anxiety, where all of the reasons for that coming down to low self esteem only because of my weight, and in addition to this I can't say I have any physical health issues due to being obese.

12-31-2013, 09:40 PM
My reason for starting when I did was my daughter's wedding, which is in April. I was large during my son's wedding in 2011 and now his wedding photos are forever proof of that. I didn't want to be large for my daughter's wedding photos. The reason I want to lose weight overall, however, is because diabetes is rampant in my family and I don't want to develop it. In fact, I'm not sure how I didn't, but every time I had a test done, my blood sugar was low. Then again, I'm hypoglycemic, so that's not really surprising. Some experts believe the step after hypoglycemia is diabetes so there's no going back for me. I have to do this, and I have to maintain it once I do! Oh, and I also would like to look and feel like myself again. I'm 52 and until about 14 years ago, I was not overweight. It's never felt right.

01-01-2014, 10:20 AM
It was my grown kids. They had "the talk" with us. Mainly saying we are headed for an early death and they would have no one else to turn to for help and guidance. That is what did it for us!

Arctic Mama
01-01-2014, 04:19 PM
Spiritual discipline issue. I need to be a capable home manager, wife, and mother. I cannot accomplish what I must in a day when I am a slave to my food. So I dealt with the sin side of it (and still do, it's an ongoing process) and then dealt with the practical and habitual side. Now things are controlled, suitable for my body, and I am able to actually serve the people I love well because my body isn't acting like a prison.

I want to look hot for my husband and cute in clothes, sure, but none of those reasons was lasting or self sustaining for life. So I had to dig deeper.

01-01-2014, 04:44 PM
I've said it a few times before I know, but my primary motivation was not to have to buy a bigger pair of jeans - I didn't want to see the next number up. I'm not sure if it should have been something more "worthwhile" but it worked for me.

What's keeping me on the straight and narrow at the moment though is the way that I feel now - I feel healthier and have so much more energy than I used to and I get antsy when I haven't moved enough over a few days. Well it's a combination of that and having bought an entirely new wardrobe and gotten rid of my old clothes! :D

01-01-2014, 07:52 PM
Mostly vanity, with a side splash of "I'll show them" mixed with I don't want my kids to only remember me as "fat mom".

It hurts when DS says, "Mom used to look HOT!" when looking at old photos.

Want to get thin again before I get old, so I won't look like a scrawny bird when I reach goal. LOL

Mrs Snark
01-01-2014, 08:04 PM
What motivates me is a big bowl of health concerns and regular old vanity with anger at having food issues and fear of letting myself down sprinkled on top.

01-01-2014, 10:10 PM
Pure vanity. I am toned but would like to see muscle definition in my abs & arms, which will only happen if I drop some body fat.

(I loved Arctic Mama's response.)

01-01-2014, 11:13 PM
For me it's vanity, but also fear. So many people in my family have weight issues and I'm afraid of experiencing some of the same consequences they have. Also, I'm planning to have children of my own eventually and I'll need to be alive and healthy for them.

01-01-2014, 11:38 PM
Me motivates me.

Not my wife. Not my kids. Not my mom. Me.

01-01-2014, 11:55 PM
Having reversed a fatty liver that simply appeared over night, my main motivation now is to be able to travel like I did in my twenties (over 50 now). My husband and I travel to remote areas, and we need to be able to hike and bike far, and have the stamina to make the journey. Extra weight causes me knee problems, and makes me run out of energy too fast. So, really, travel is a big motivator. Second, you can get nicer fashions (i.e., more widely available) below size 14. Once I got back to 12's, I really had fun at Lord and Taylor. Lastly, I am working on joining our Masters group (swimming). I don't want to join until I am sure I can maintain this loss.

01-02-2014, 12:48 AM
In the beginning, it was partly vanity, and partly the fact that I wasn't the skinny sister any longer.

As time progressed, it became more about health.

Number one, that I feel better.

Number two, that there is a lot of obesity in the family and along with it the related health problems.

The more I look at certain family members, and even people in my community and the toll obesity takes on the body, the more, I don't want to go down that road.

01-02-2014, 05:33 PM
My health, 100%. Well, 98% and 2% buying smaller clothes :)

My mom led an incredibly unhealthy life and died of multiple strokes and a heart attack in 2003 at the age of 55. There's a huge history of heart disease, strokes and diabetes on that side of the family and all sorts of heart and other issues on my dad's side. My dad, brother and sister all still lead really unhealthy lifestyles and their health is suffering for it. I worry constantly about which one will be gone first.

I decided I wasn't going out like that in 2007. Even now, as I'm in a massive plateau, I look at my baby girl and tell myself there's no WAY I'm leaving her before I see her graduate college, get married and have children like my mom did me. At least not because of anything I could do my best to avoid.

01-02-2014, 05:50 PM
Well, I've been big (213) and I've been small (129) and I LOVED being small. I loved being thin and looking good in clothes and just the way it FELT. I used to run and sometimes I felt as if I could just run around the whole world. Call me shallow and vain, but I LIKED it when women looked at me enviously, and men looked at me lustfully.

The only thing I didn't like was the fact that my boobs went down, but I dislike being bigger a whole lot more.

01-02-2014, 07:42 PM
Vanity...I want to be healthy too but mainly vanity. I don't care what other people see but I didn't like what I saw in the mirror anymore and that was enough for me to get up and do something. Plus being almost 40 really put the fire under my @ss. :D

01-02-2014, 07:42 PM
Well, I've been big (213) and I've been small (129) and I LOVED being small. I loved being thin and looking good in clothes and just the way it FELT. I used to run and sometimes I felt as if I could just run around the whole world. Call me shallow and vain, but I LIKED it when women looked at me enviously, and men looked at me lustfully.

The only thing I didn't like was the fact that my boobs went down, but I dislike being bigger a whole lot more.

Your post rung true for me as well. I also use to run and I do want to be able to go out and run like I did. After my runs I felt very powerful...that maybe sounds weird lol, but I felt like I could take on anything!

My boobs got much smaller too when I was at my low weight (see siggy..for low weight, not boob size lol) but it was worth being thin and toned. And running definitely toned and lifted from the waist down. I actually had a friend (X friend now finally) who was very big say to me "you have no boobs" (and I was a B cup. But she was like a ZZZ) and I snapped back "well I'd rather have small boobs to go with by new cute tight little body, than have my bigger boobs back along with my fat out of shape body...beside I can get implants if it bothers me that much." Needless to say these types of comments were not uncommon from her and we parted ways about 8 months ago.

01-02-2014, 07:51 PM
I want to be healthier and get running again! My family is active, I want to keep up!

01-02-2014, 07:59 PM
I really like this post, thank you Glamour Girl ;)

I guess I refuse to give up! I like to think that I can beat the odds and this is one area where I want to prove to myself that I can lose this weight. I have a lot of health issues that would be vastly improved by my losing weight, I know I can do this but I think that there is fear of success with weight loss. I talk about it in therapy sometimes, it is a bit overwhelming trying to get healthier.

This is a very motivating and uplifting post, thank you!

Amy :)

01-03-2014, 05:51 PM
It changes as it's been awhile since I started. First it was the biggest loser contest I was in. That was so successful that I vowed to be under 200 for a Disney trip, which was also successful. Now I'd like to really like to get down as I started fencing again and the extra weight is killing my knees on lunges.

All in all though, for me, the biggest motivator is success itself. Nothing makes me want to keep going like seeing the scale go down.

Fat Knickers
01-05-2014, 04:03 PM
The thought that I could waste another 10+ years hiding away, eating. All those lightbulb moments passed me by until I lost 50lbs a couple of years ago, and then I wished I'd started losing weight earlier!

01-06-2014, 10:26 AM
Because I am in my 20s with relatively elastic skin, so I have the potential to be "conventionally hot lean hourglass." A fit woman at the gym told me I I have the body type to get that dancer's body I confessed that I wanted. Don't wanna miss out on that window of opportunity, even though its fleeting and superficial. =D

01-06-2014, 02:18 PM
For me, I've been pretty obese all my life, but until recently it wasn't a problem. For the past couple of years I've started feeling really uncomfortable in my own skin. I feel uncomfortable while standing, sitting, walking, anything. I can't do any activity without feeling winded and going red in the face, and I feel horrible when I see myself in the mirror or in pictures. So a big part of my motivation is that I just want to be comfortable with myself.

The other part is, of course, vanity driven. I just want to know what it feels like to not be the fat one. I daydream sometimes about what life would be like if I could lose this weight, and all the things I could do without it (horse riding, hiking, adventure sports, all of which I love but can't do now). It's that daydreaming that keeps me motivated when I get discouraged.

Last but not least, these forums. When I'm at my most demotivated, I come here and look at the Goals and mini-goals forums and am in awe of the people who have managed to achieve their goals, and it's a huge pick me up, and I remember that they all had their ups and downs as well, but pushed through it and are much happier for it now.

01-06-2014, 05:20 PM
I want to lose weight for vanity reasons and to feel less self conscious when meeting new people or seeing people I haven't seen in awhile. But my main motivation to start losing weight was the recent studies showing links between Alzheimer's disease and obesity.

01-06-2014, 05:27 PM
All vanity. I would love to have one spring where I don't start getting anxious and freaking out because it's time to shed layers. I had one spring like that in my adult life. I need another.

01-07-2014, 01:52 AM
looking over my shoulder every day and seeing how far I've come and what I have accomplished - I don't want to screw up all my hard work!

seeing my daughter who is 11 starting to parrot my healthier eating behaviors - I want her to be healthy and develop great eating habits!

hearing my 9 year old son tell me all the time he is proud of me - I want him to know that sometimes goals take a lot of hard work and a long time to reach, but never give up, you can do it, just like I'm doing it!

wanting to show my husband (who leads a healthy life full of exercise) that I will take care of myself, too, so that we can live a long life together.

I would love to look hot in clothes, lol, but at this point, I'd be happy with looking decent :D

01-07-2014, 09:00 AM
For me it is also vanity, with a side order of a fear of diabetes, which runs in my family. I've never been skinny, but I have been fit and felt a whole lot better than at my heaviest.

I am turning 40 this year and taking the family to Disney World as my gift. I want to look good in the pictures, so when I look back at them a few years from now I don't cringe at fat rolls and chubby thighs.

Also, I like being able to do better than others. My neighbor took up jogging last fall, and I was smugly proud when I totally lapped her the last time I saw her out and about. That might not be the nicest attitude (and of course I don't say anything to her to diminish her accomplishment), but it honestly does motivate me.

01-10-2014, 08:37 AM
For me it's a few different things. I want to have more of a choice with the clothing I buy, I used to really enjoy shopping for clothes and I feel that I can't these days. I like the feeling of being fitter, moving about is a lot easier and I feel lighter on my feet. I have a hormone imbalance and losing weight would help that. I also get pain in my knees and back and I don't want to have to put up with that anymore. There really are so many different things that motivate me.

01-11-2014, 01:06 AM
I'm another one with health concerns as my motivation. A few years ago an aunt died after a long-time struggle with diabetes. She never took care of her health and vowed that she would "eat what she wanted to eat." And, it cost her. This aunt is the one person in my family that I most resemble, so I must have similar genes. I can't imagine facing a future like hers. I just don't want my eventual demise to be something that I could've prevented.

And, I've always been heavy -- since 2nd grade. So, every time I turn around I experience something new at this smaller size -- store clerks that don't ignore me, feeling small in my car, clothes fitting well. I can't imagine how I will feel and what I can look forward to when I reach my goal. The anticipation keeps me going!

01-11-2014, 07:11 AM
Since my teens a big part of losing weight has been for vanity reasons. But now a lot has to do with my health. I have pcos/IR and have bad knees and occasional lower back pain( there's a good chunk of fat back there). I'm too young (I'm only 25)to be having knee and back pain.

01-11-2014, 07:38 AM
Vanity and health, I want to be around to enjoy doing fun things with my nephew, without being embarrassed or uncomfortable.

01-11-2014, 12:00 PM
Both my parents went through complications of type 2 diabetes, and my FIL just dealt with a huge scare over Christmas. I myself have managed to reverse over a decade's worth of type 2 diabetes without meds and I don't ever want to go back. I've seen what it does and it's scary.

Doctors are always shocked at how good my numbers look, and personal trainers are shocked at how strong I am. I still have a lot to lose so I guess my appearance is deceiving! I also love the shock I get when I show off my before photos so that people can see how far I've come. :p

A huge motivation for my reboot in 2012 was pushing myself onward after having a miscarriage. Exactly a year after working so hard to get healthier, I got pregnant and continued to do my best with everything. I was blessed with a beautiful baby boy last month. :)

I want to be a strong, healthy mom that can take care of my son, so I can be there for him. Both of my parents died far too young; my mom while I was still a kid living at home, and my dad when I was in my 20's. It's so hard to be without them at this stage of my life and I don't want to put my son or any other future little ones through that. :(

It does actually feel good to be active. It's shocking to me because I always hated physical activity, even as a kid. I definitely want to encourage my son to be active as he grows because I certainly wasn't encouraged when I was a kid.

There's definitely some vanity going on. I've never been thin and I've never had a nice figure. I'm just starting to get out of plus sizes. I want to find my style and have fun with clothes, rather than just grabbing anything that will provide coverage. And now that I've discovered thrifting, the expense of clothes is no longer an issue.

And maybe . . . just maybe . . . I'll have a waist that curves in instead of out? :dizzy: I've always wanted that! :lol:

01-11-2014, 06:19 PM
My motivation is my health. I am healthy, and I want to remain that way. Hypothyroidism runs in my family, and I was diagnosed with probable PCOS in the past (I haven't showed any symptoms in awhile). Hubby and I also want to have a baby, and I am back to working hard to getting my body ready for this. I have gained some weight in the past couple months, but I am committed to lose it again. I need routine, so it might as well be a healthy one.

03-27-2014, 03:16 PM
My motivation is wanting to live a longer, healthier life. I want the opportunity to spend quality time with my family. Being diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes has opened my eyes to the fact that I have to take care of myself.

03-28-2014, 11:00 PM
What motivates me personally is sooo many factors I mean we're talking about my whole life up into this point.

*Wanting to fit into smaller clothes
*Feeling like an insecure alien because I was different in a way that wasn't attractive to myself.
*Guys not giving me a chance, being the "cool" friend but never GF material.
*Wanting to do lots of physical activties that require you to be in shape.
*This idiot who broke my heart and made me insecure (which was the final straw of my obesity)
*Knowing that I'm young (almost 20) and I can't go 20 more years living a miserable existence.
*The need to feel that I can accomplish something not all can do, and takes a lot of willpower, focus and committment which aren't my strongest traits.
*Knowing that I can motivate other people.
*Having optimum health.
*Having my mom be proud of me for breaking the cycle of obesity in my family.
*Being the very best I can be for the one that I will fall in love with.
*Being the person that god has always wanted me to be.
*my newfound love for physical activity.
*It helps me combat my depression and risks for Diabetes and PCOS.
*This is going to be my first big accomplishment in life.
*Knowing that my dad will look down on me with a big smile and hopefully say you did it Mija!
*I'm doing this for me.
*Doing it for the ones who don't think that it can be done (around me).


03-29-2014, 07:31 PM
My motivation to keep moving forward on my weight loss journey is that Im really close to getting diabetes and I dont want to get diabetes so in order to stop it from happening I have to loose weight which is what Im doing.

03-29-2014, 07:48 PM
I can't be bothered "showing up" anyone. At this point, I'm close to 30, and it's time to grow up. It's that simple. No one else is going to take care of me but me.

03-29-2014, 08:30 PM
Nothing makes me want to keep going like seeing the scale go down.

Thats me too

04-01-2014, 07:17 PM
Thats me too

Me as well

04-01-2014, 08:40 PM
As of more than a year ago, I eat gluten-free 100% of the time for health reasons/to save myself from symptomatic misery.
I run and exercise when I want to because it makes me feel good.
I lose weight for vanity firstly and secondly to make running and such easier. When I don't feel like losing weight, I maintain.

04-02-2014, 01:25 AM
I love to look at people's before and afters its a big motivation

04-02-2014, 02:38 PM
I like what someone above posted that seeing the numbers on the scale motivate me. I also agree that fitting into smaller clothes help me. I haven't been on this site for over 2 years. I am very committed to going under 200 right now and that is motivating me to watch my calories and increase my exercise!

04-02-2014, 03:23 PM
To be honest, looking cute and more attractive to everyone. Dresses, skirts, tanktops, shorts, jeans, and swimsuits! I want to be able to put these all on and not feel bad about the way I look or ashamed of how far i let myself fall. That happened a summer ago, and when i realised how bad it became, i finally forced myself to change, because i didn't feel like myself anymore! Proving that i can do something that seems and impossible, and that, despite some setbacks, it is slowing happening! Also to people who gave me heel because of it, just like others.:p:)

04-03-2014, 02:24 AM
My biggest motivation is to wear "normal" size clothes and to feel great in them. I'm tired of trying to find loose fitting tops to cover my bulges!