Lot of typos, bad spelling...you've been warned!!
FOr anyone that hasn't heard me whine about it yet, I grew up with a crappy life. Bad family life, very poor, just crumby all the way around. In my 20s I met my husband who came from an equally crappy life. We moved in together at 19 and took about a decade to get through college since we had to work so it took longer. We had friends in our walk of life, poor etc. But as we were going to school, they were partying, drinking, drugs, having kids.
Two years ago my husband gradutated from school and we went from below poverty line to upper middle class like mearly over night. We bought a house, go on vacations...well that's really it, we still aren't spenders! lol
But also we have happy life. Our marriage is happy, and honestly being financially secure removes a lot of stress from life.
A friend I made about 5 years ago, has gotten weird about everything, which I get because I know what it feels like to be so broke you don't know where your next meal is coming from, and seeing someone buy a new car while you can't eat....well it sucks.
I've been understanding and I don't talk about any of our "things" with her. She has refused to come to our house, as she is living in a 800 sq ft low income apartment and doesn't want to even see where we live. I don't push the issue, I can understand how that might feel. She keeps having kids and doesn't "want" to go to college. She did have a job a few months ago, but lost it after flipping out on a manager and calling him racial slurs! I told her she was lucky she just lost her job, gees...I also found out recently that she abuses prescription pills...She and her husband are miserable, they got married because she got pregnant, and since she has gotten pregnant 2 more times accidentally. She is pregnant now actually, and has never taken a prenantal vitatim, because she said she doesn't "want" to...sadly enough she found out that the baby has spina bifida
They have no money, no insurance.... And she said her doctor talked to her that its possible (and I understand this may not be the case) but possible that low folic acid might have lead to this, and that had she been taking a prenatal vit maybe it could have been prevented. She said its the doc's fault because he should have tested her folic acid levels. I explained to her that all doc recommend a daily prenatal absolutely for all pregnant women but actually for all women of child bearing age because by the time some know they are pregnant, the neural tube formation has happened......She also cheated on her husband last year, oh and she very very obese which she hates, of course. And before I got pregnant, I had finally lost all my baby weight and she was rude to me about it, her comment was "oh what happened to your boobs?" She's just a miserable person, but I get why, so I try not to take it personally, but she really is toxic.
Anyway, her life is a mess. And its gotten to the point that I can't talk about any of our "problems" because my problems are just not as important as hers. I feel like saying "sorry I didn't ruin my life, but I still have things going on!!"
Well recently we were trying to decide whether to send my son to private school or public, Our local public school is ok, its just that it got like 1200 kids in it! Most of the schools in our area have like 400 - 500 kids. We don't like the class size either, there's just too many kids, to teacher ratio. But we also don't want to send him a 1/2 away for not reason. And she was just like "its no big deal, its not something to worry about. I don't know why you are even thinking about it." Mean while her daughter is going to a school that's not too great and there's nothing that can be done because my friend can't afford private school. I told her, well this is something that is a big deal to me right now, I need to make a choice.....and she was like "oh get over it"...and I finally just snapped. I told her I think we need to go our seperate ways...and that was it. Removed her from facebook and block her phone number.
I know she's having a tough time, but she's been having a tough time for the past 5 years! Its always something and she never tried to change anything about her life. And she's made it clear that she wnats nothing to do with any thing in my life. The only time she's interested in listen to me is if I have something miserable going on...like misery loves company. I feel like I just dropped a huge bunch a dead weight, and I feel pretty good. I just needed to get it out somewhere!!!!
The only thing is I will move on because I am happy, but I know how she is, I've seen it when other friends dump her, she has nothing better to do but try to call them and message them on facebook, and stalk them....its sad really. But its not that she tried to contact them to be like "i'm sorry lets be friends"...no, she does it to keep telling them off....she's just such a train wreck and she can't handle anyone walking away from her misery.
Vent/rant...finally dumped a toxic person!!!
