Body Image and Issues after Weight Loss - The novelty has worn off..feel fat again.




novangel
08-17-2012, 12:21 AM
At first my weight loss felt great but now I'm feeling uncomfortable in my skin again. I have been at this weight for a little longer than a month and the newness has worn off. I feel a new "fat" size now and when I look in the mirror I don't see the loss anymore...I see more work to do when before I felt happy. Anyone experience this?

I have to look at pictures or try on old clothes to see/feel a difference. It's like I forgot how fluffy I used to be and sometimes still feel like I'm in my old body if that makes sense.

I'm just not happy with my body anymore right now. Probably not helping that I have sodium bloat right now either. :/


Rana
08-17-2012, 09:39 AM
YES! Me too!

I think it's because I've been at this weight for a while now, that my eyes/brain have gotten used to it....

And yes, I see the flaws still... I'm just hoping that when I get to goal I won't want to continue. That's why one of the things I'm trying to focus on is doing strength training, so I can get the muscle that I need to make my body look better, rather than focusing purely on weight loss.

krampus
08-17-2012, 10:32 AM
I hear you. I'm about "there" and still just see blobs and flaws even though I'm literally in the best shape of my life and still improving. Hoping continued strength training will do its magic and I will actually be able to see it.


Desiderata
08-17-2012, 10:54 AM
For me, I'm starting to see it as the downside to slow losing. I shrink so slowly that I seem to mentally adjust quickly (i.e. accurately gauge my size), only to hold relatively steady and not see any drastic changes. Then I get mildly frustrated that there's not a bigger difference after X number of months, and still 'feel' big and fluffy even though there's actually been some progress.

k8yk
08-17-2012, 12:53 PM
I find "feeling fat" is a mental thing that has very little to do with size or reality- hence people who are emaciated and still feel "fat". For me it can just as easily mean "feeling depressed and stressed" as anything else. Gotta work on the inside self-acceptance part even more than the outer package. Judging from your profile picture, you are decidedly NOT fat.

Candeka
08-17-2012, 01:34 PM
I hear you! When I first dropped a pant size, I felt sexy, skinny, small! I'd see myself in the mirror and be like WOW! However, now that I am used to it, when I see myself, I think I've gained weight and am back to where I was. I know that it is not true since my clothes still fit the same, but its very agitating. I took a break from weight loss so maybe since I have started up again, this feeling will go away!

NEMom
08-17-2012, 01:38 PM
I am so glad that someone else feels this way too. I felt so great about how I looked 4 months ago, but not so much now. I look at myself in the mirror and still see so many flaws. I keep trying to go down 10 more lbs but can't seem to get my groove back.

1987
08-17-2012, 01:38 PM
Yes, totally. I have lost three stone and for ages I was like 'wow, I look so much better'. Now I just myself as properly fat again.

I guess my mind has caught up with things! Hopefully it won't be long until I lose more and get that nice feeling again.

ShoBan
08-17-2012, 05:25 PM
I have not lost all the weight I want to, but the body image phrase, caught my attention. Ok, I've lost 41 lbs., I put my new outfit on to go shopping. I got as far as the 1st store, and noticed different guys were looking at me! All my anxieties flared up, and I turned around and came back home, I felt so uncomfortable, being looked at,:o, what's wrong with me? Maybe I'll put my baggy shirts back on, so noone will notice me. Wierd huh?

guacamole
08-17-2012, 06:28 PM
I feel very heavy - I've been in my general weight range for a few months, with no drastic loss. All I see are my own flaws and skinny people all around me. I still feel like one of the heavier people wherever I go. I know I look better than I did 1 year ago, but I don't look any different from say, 4-5 months ago. 150lbs is my new "fat" weight. I hope I feel differently when I am at my goal weight - otherwise, I am destined to always feel fat.

sontaikle
08-17-2012, 06:42 PM
Ugh me too. I've been more or less this size for 9 months now. Some days I feel awesome and others I just feel like I'm big again.

Lifting has helped because my body has changed even though my size hasn't, but it's very different than suddenly fitting into a new, smaller size.

novangel
08-17-2012, 08:27 PM
Glad I'm not alone...My body LOVES 150p and it's a constant struggle to stay under that number so a goal of 140p seems impossible at the moment. I won't give up but it's frustrating.

I know my avatar pic shows I'm definitely not fat (I probably even sound ridiculous to those that have a considerable amount of weight to lose) but I FEEL fat. When I sit down I have rolls and I feel them touching eachother. :/ Drives me insane. A few months ago I actually said, "even if I never lost another pound I'm happy". Now I feel almost as crappy about my body as I did when I first started. I agree with whoever said there's a downside to very slow weightloss. Your mind does adjust very quickly.

Thanks for the responses. :)

novangel
08-17-2012, 09:11 PM
I guess my biggest gripe is the elasticity of my stomach skin has never been the same since child birth. No matter how much I lose my stomach is like a water bed. I know serious weight training would help but I'm not there yet, I'm still trying to master Jillian.

Lauracore
08-20-2012, 08:44 AM
ugh body image. I can completely relate. I have days where I think I'm looking great then others where I just feel like I'm 200 pounds again. WHY!?!? Normally, I try to battle those thoughts by remembering how far I've come and accept that my perception of my body is simply not reliable. But I agree with k8- a lot of times I don't even know that I'm actually upset about something else and I just channel it on my body. Lame but it is just good to be aware of it.

lyv33
08-31-2012, 05:52 PM
I feel the same way. UGGGG

lorman
09-04-2012, 04:58 PM
I am right there with the rest of you. The first time I lost 52 pounds and was a size 6. However, when I looked in the mirror I still saw the old me. I had a hard time taking compliments from my friends and family when they would tell me how good I looked.

Sure gave me a perspective on how people can be anorexic and think they are fat.

bullylady
09-10-2012, 03:55 PM
I just posted this in another group I'm a member of! I went from a 20/22 to a 10 (-71#), and I'm still not happy. I *was* initially happy and now I just see fat again. It is frustrating. I feel like this is my new fat and it IS ridiculous. I have been wondering if I need counseling because it even sounds silly to me that I'm not happy as a lark right now!

I didn't see this coming, it was all smiles and now not so much. I work out 3-4 days a week and while I SEE lots of GREAT changes...I get dressed and get pissy about what is in the mirror.

Loads of luck to us all to get our heads back into reality huh!

1spunkygal
09-10-2012, 06:51 PM
Funny (not haha funny) but I get -20 gone & in my mind think I'm done & the mirror says otherwise.... I have about 80 lbs to go. It's hard to take compliments when poeple say ....Hey skinny ! NOT so i have a long way to go . Not discouraged but it's weird & hard to explain.

jonah
09-11-2012, 09:28 AM
I'd rather Feel FAT than be FAT

Easier to change those feelings...(wanna trade? lol)

berryblondeboys
09-11-2012, 09:43 AM
I'd rather Feel FAT than be FAT

Easier to change those feelings...(wanna trade? lol)

I don't know if this is true, actually. it's easier to change our eating and exercise habits than it is to change how we view ourselves and food. A big part of WHY we got fat in the first place was all in our head. We wouldn't have gotten fat (especially those of us who got really fat) if we had our heads on straight.

I wish I could get my head together and keep it together. It's my head that makes this weight loss journey difficult - not the food and exercise part.

krampus
09-11-2012, 10:41 AM
I tried on a size 2 (Target, Merona) skirt that was loose the other day. Yesterday I had a meltdown and convinced myself I was too fat to go out in public. I don't think logic plays much part in the "feelings" sphere.

Steph7409
09-11-2012, 04:24 PM
I agree with berry and krampus (BTW, belated congrats on quitting smoking! It's been 11 years for me) - it's the psychological part that's such a struggle. I'm thankful that I figured out I don't have to completely fix that to lose weight, though. Still feeling fat is part of the whole disordered thinking thing I've got going on. I've been trying to just acknowledge the crazy without caving in to it. It's not easy.

Alba09
09-11-2012, 11:11 PM
Yep, I agree with everyone! When I was "big" I didn't really care what I looked like... I always said this is me, if you don't like then don't look!
Now that I'm losing weight I am more self conscious than ever, it's really weird! I don't like wearing a bathing suit or shorts and it was NEVER an issue before. I guess maybe because I care more now??? Idk...
Anyway, same thing, lost my first 30, 40, 50 lbs and felt like a model! I was thin n hot n sexy LOL
I gained 10 or 15 back so I'm working on losing it again but every time I look in the mirror, I see the flab, the flub, the rolls, the "back bacon"...
I know it's a mind trick, I just don't know ow to change it *sigh*

PS I know it can be hard to hear ppl smaller than you complain about their size, it used to be my NUMBER ONE pet peeve! Then one day my mom was explaining to me... You know tht feeling where your clothes are too tight? You can't quite do up the button on your jeans, your stomach hangs over the sides, you look bloated in a shirt that used to be loose, or you just feel uncomfortable ALL the time? Well, anyone at any size can feel that way! It was kind of a rude awakening for me because I had never thought of it that way. I just saw skinny friends complaing about their weight to someone who weighed 100 lbs more than them....
But I guess we can all relate to that feeling, that "fat" feeling, overweight or not : )

bullylady
09-12-2012, 12:16 PM
Good point Alba09!

I was just telling my SO how I used to laugh at the "skinny B's" that complained about their weight...and now my friends are saying those things to me and telling me to shut the **** up. It isn't any less real that I FEEL this way because I've lost weight. My head isn't where it should be and it is a struggle.

I need to get out of this or I think I'll just revert back to the old ways...I mean, if I think I'm fat now what's 5 more right? I really think this was a good discussion and at least I don't feel so alone now!

losermom
09-15-2012, 11:04 AM
PS I know it can be hard to hear ppl smaller than you complain about their size, it used to be my NUMBER ONE pet peeve! Then one day my mom was explaining to me... You know tht feeling where your clothes are too tight? You can't quite do up the button on your jeans, your stomach hangs over the sides, you look bloated in a shirt that used to be loose, or you just feel uncomfortable ALL the time? Well, anyone at any size can feel that way! It was kind of a rude awakening for me because I had never thought of it that way. I just saw skinny friends complaing about their weight to someone who weighed 100 lbs more than them....
But I guess we can all relate to that feeling, that "fat" feeling, overweight or not : )

Alba, your mom is one wise woman. That is exactly how I feel! Right now I'm at the top of my allowed range (about 4-5 lbs). My clothes do not feel as loose as I'd like them to feel. I feel like I cannot comfortably wear some things because they're a little tight and it pisses me off. It's so stupid because nobody else can see that I'm up a couple of lbs. They just see me at this size. It's all in my head--and there's all kinds of crazy up in there!

And I agree, it's possible to lose the weight even if you aren't there psychologically. I continue to struggle to get my head in the right place and stop reaching for food to fix it. This last week, I decided that every time I start thinking that I'm too fat (which I am not), I'm going to tell myself that I'm really hot, and in a good way! :devil: Sometimes it works...

AnnRue
10-08-2012, 08:05 PM
This is really a problem for me. I just lost 60 lbs and people recoil in horror when they see me every day -- well not horror but they just can't stop saying something.

But the the thing.. I don't see it. In fact I often look in the mirror and think I look the same.

A few things
- Just like when I was fat, the mirror lies. I can't see things in glass reflections as clearly as photos. I do find I have to take photos to remind myself.

- I suspect there may be a layer of fat or tissue or something that doesn't exactly go down for a while. So the scale says 150 but you still look bloated a bit. I think your body may reuse these materials but it takes time.

- I still have a lot of my old clothing and when I wear them, of course I still look fat. The clothing is big. It is hard to replace your wardrobe but, I think it is crucially important to purchase fitting clothing or even too tight clothing.

Clothing is tricky. Most of my clothing before was likely too small for me. So it was tight on my 200 lb frame and now I am walking around in 200 lb clothing on a 155 lb person. No wonder.

Those are my thoughts but I still struggle with it.

Going4Lean
10-22-2012, 05:26 PM
I have discovered that this "feeling fat" problem, is just something that will always rear its ugly head..every now and then. Mostly, for me, it's *monthly* related, so it will disappear as quickly as it came. But, it's still annoying.

Seems, though, that mine is more *mental*, than it is *physical*, as my clothes will all fit the same..yet I just feel frumpy. It's crazy how a tiny 1 - 2 pounds of water retention, will alter how I view myself, while others around me never seem to comment or even take notice of it. That's how I know it's more a *mental* issue and so I just do my best to let it go.