Weight Loss Support - What was your "aha" moment? Inside is mine, what could have been a deadly surgery.




eternalflame30
07-27-2012, 11:41 PM
Mine was my surgery yesterday. I was admitted into the hospital Wednesday then had surgery Thursday morning, a laprascopic Robotic assisted surgery where they tilt you almost upside down. It was going to be four hours long searching for endometriosis. Well things got complicated, before the surgery my doctor warned me because of the positioning I would be in and the fat around my stomach I had a good chance of my lungs collapsing during the duration.

Luckily that didn't happen, but for an hour and a half which consisted of my whole surgery since she found no endometriosis but did some biopsies just in case it was really tiny, they had to hold my neck fat down so that my Trachia wouldn't collapse. I woke up swollen and in pain, and thankful I woke up with no major issues.

I would say that was my "aha" moment. My recovery time is six weeks. Since I can't exercise I now watch what I put into my mouth more healthy things. When six weeks is up I will be exercising. I now want to loose all my weight because I now realize the risk of being as big as I am.

The surgery saved my life in a way.

So what was a big thing that made you realize you needed to loose weight?


gailr42
07-27-2012, 11:58 PM
I got a look at my reflection in a store window. I was appalled by what I saw!

Also, I was getting breathless when I had to walk across a parking lot or hunt something down in Wally Word. And, I have stress incontinence which I am sure would improve if I didn't have so much fat banging down on my bladder every time I sneeze. It is embarrassing to have to buy adult diapers. I always see someone I know.

I have lost somewhere between 15 - 20 lbs and already I notice a huge improvement in the breathlessness. I've been working my way into walking, too, so that may also be a factor.

NYFLAgirl
07-28-2012, 12:18 AM
My moment was a surgery as well-in May I had to have emergency surgery to remove my gallbladder because it was filled with gallstones. Then, one of the gallstones escaped during the first surgery and got stuck in my bile duct. So I had to have another surgery two days later to remove it. It was a horrible experience overall. All the while in the hospital I had to hear from every doctor that I needed to lose weight. Or that my surgeries would be more complicated because of my weight. I was already starting to lose weight before the surgery but I really wasn't committed to it.

At first I was mad-I just wanted to get better and didn't want to hear the same old lecture about my weight from every doctor I came into contact with. But then I realized-I had no one to blame but myself for putting me in that hospital room. I know that gallbladder removal surgery is pretty common but the moment came for me when I realized just what I was doing to my body. How for years I was mistreating it and it was starting to give up on me. That this wouldn't be the last surgery I would have thanks to being extremely overweight.

Something just finally clicked. I was a pretty "healthy" person up until that surgery. Good blood pressure, great cholesterol no health problems what so ever. Besides my weight. Then I finally realized that my weight had caught up to me. That if I didn't make a change I was going to continue to destroy my body. I just didn't want that for myself.


IAmTheGlue
07-28-2012, 12:26 AM
I had bilateral carpal tunnel surgery in April (BEST thing I ever did btw). They discovered I am having runs of PVC (wonky heart beats) before the surgery. My father just died of Congestive Heart Failure a month ago. My Mom is having heart problems. My cardiologist said that carrying extra weight is very taxing on the heart and can cause Congestive Heart Failure in some cases. With my family history of heart problems, this is nothing to mess around with.

Yeah, it's time to lose this weight. I've got too many people depending on me to keel over dead cause I won't take care of myself.

MyLilSweetPeas
07-28-2012, 01:19 AM
Mine wasn't a scare but more a realization. I had a total vaginal hysterectomy with rectocele and enterocele repair on 5/30/12. I have 4 kids so I knew that I was "done". With having the hysterectomy, I realized that I will no longer be sacrificing my body to have kids(I know that sounds reversed, like I should have already been taking care of my body but hindsight is 20/20). Anyway, now that no more babies are coming, it's time to take control and get my body healthy for me for the rest of my life. As soon as my 6 weeks was up, I started exercising. During my six weeks I started eating a healthy diet, which I have gotten better at but I'm still learning. And so my journey began!

pink61091
07-28-2012, 01:21 AM
My best friend and her mom were getting the lap band. Well I've always had someone to be fat with lol. So i wasnt alone, but what about after her surgery? Well I didnt want to be the only fat one left. So as shes getting closer to her surgery ive been dieting and exercising so we can be skinny best friends :)

pink61091
07-28-2012, 01:22 AM
Ps how do you guys get those little slider things with your weight on it?

Hotaruchan
07-28-2012, 01:29 AM
Ps how do you guys get those little slider things with your weight on it?

I think you need a certain number of posts (so it might not let you yet), but go to User CP at the top, click Edit Signature on the left, then it should give you an option to add a ticker to your signature. Click on that and it will bring up the instructions and different style options. Alternately, you can get them from a few different sites. Mine is from a different site because I like having the BMI on it. If you google weight loss tickers, it should help...Lady Slim and Ticker Factory seem to be the most popular ones around here.

pink61091
07-28-2012, 01:32 AM
I think you need a certain number of posts (so it might not let you yet), but go to User CP at the top, click Edit Signature on the left, then it should give you an option to add a ticker to your signature. Click on that and it will bring up the instructions and different style options. Alternately, you can get them from a few different sites. Mine is from a different site because I like having the BMI on it. If you google weight loss tickers, it should help...Lady Slim and Ticker Factory seem to be the most popular ones around here.

Thanks :)

linJber
07-28-2012, 01:48 AM
You have to be a member for a certain number of days - 30, I think. and also have 20 posts. Then do what Hotaruchan said to do. Welcome to the forum!

Lin

CarryOnLosing
07-28-2012, 02:36 AM
A very close friend and I had a major fight that was triggered by her telling a mutual friend like I wasn't even there "we've got to do something about her stomach." Was close to severing ties with her, but she said she never meant to hurt me but knew how much my weight and stomach especially bothered me.

Over the past 10 odd years iv gotten so mad at people bringing up my weight and asking if I'm pregnant. I can do something about it and so I am. Plus my birthday's coming up in Sept and I want to have made significant progress by then and not go round the same mountain yet another year.

SoulSurvivor
07-28-2012, 06:21 AM
My first one was the fact that my feet always ached from standing up at work in flat shoes let alone in heels. And well, I couldn't fit into 90% of the clothes I loved. I was wearing skirts intended for the hips on my waist. I was in serious denial.
My most recent aha moment is about clothes again, I hate not being able to wear nice stuff in summer. I feel like I'm always covering my arms. I despise smock/baggy clothes. I refuse to be the fatty who just wears bin bag style clothes. And I don't want to be the one who wears excessively tight clothing.

sontaikle
07-28-2012, 06:49 AM
I had several "aha" moments but none of them pushed me into weight loss, oddly enough. I just tried something one day and decided to stick with it.

- dark skin on inner thighs and neck; a sign of being possibly pre diabetic. Diabetes runs on both sides of my family, so that was scary. Both are gone now.

- Getting winded going up flights of stairs despite all the working out I did. Now I can run up flights of stairs without getting winded even if I'm carrying a lot of stuff!

- Pins and needle feeling in my feet randomly at times (I'm also guessing this was a pre diabetic thing too). Now also gone unless I sit the wrong way.

- Not fitting into desks, restaurant booths, etc.

Hotaruchan
07-28-2012, 07:53 AM
Wow...I just realized that I answered someone's question and forgot to respond to the actual topic...I must have seen something shiny. In any case, coming to Japan and being surrounded by skinny people was bad...then one day during the first week of teaching 4th grade, a little girl came up to me, patted my stomach, said "pon pon!" (the sound of a drum) and informed me that I was much fatter than their last English teacher. I apparently gave her a really scary smile trying to keep from bursting into tears from everything building up (moving to a new country, being in the middle of nowhere, being expected to do my job with zero guidance after only half a week of training...). That was probably the straw that broke the camel's back...

m3k
07-28-2012, 10:00 AM
Mine was when I went to the Dr. and the scale read 222.

I thought I was the weight I am now, then, so it was quite a shock.

Rose Elizabeth
07-28-2012, 06:35 PM
I was going for my yearly check-up with my mom this past Thursday. I gained a few pounds but since I'm still growing, my percentile for weight dropped by a little over 5 percent. As soon as the doctor finished telling my mom and I this my mom said, "I knew you were actually starting to look pretty." Errr... gee thanks mom, I must have ACTUALLY been hideous before. *rolls eyes*

Elladorine
07-28-2012, 06:48 PM
Several things. Several tries. Some more successful than others.

Went shopping at the mall with a friend once. Was in a plus sized store and realized that they didn't stock one pair of jeans that would fit me. Yes, I was too fat for the plus sized store. Nearly passed out behind the wheel, at a time when I was making a living by driving children to school (I wasn't working that particular afternoon, but still). Realizing that I'd not only gone over 300 pounds (something I thought I'd never do), but went well beyond it.

Lost about 40 pounds.

Knowing that I was probably prediabetic or worse. Had some of the classic symptoms, including overactive bladder, constant thirst, slow-healing wounds, and horrible mood swings.

Lost about 40 more pounds. Gained some back. Lost some again.

Most recently? A miscarriage was a painful reminder that I'm not at my best, health-wise. That was this past January. After slowly easing back into a healthier lifestyle while I healed and mourned, I got back into the full swing of things in March and have lost about 25 pounds since. I'm currently at my lowest weight in 12 years (!) and plan to keep on working hard at losing.

Steph7409
07-28-2012, 09:28 PM
I always appreciate everyone's honesty on this forum, especially when answering this sort of question.

My "enough already!" moment came a little over a year ago, when I got the results from a kidney stone procedure where they went in through my bladder to blast a stone that was partially blocking my ureter (which could have been really serious). That stone (some of which is still in there, like a tiny time bomb) was one of the worst kinds to have and the recommendations to prevent another one were food-related: stop eating chocolate and nuts, two of my favorite binge foods. I had been feeling really crappy, both physically and emotionally, and I decided it was time to stop whining and start making some changes. So I started calorie counting and cut way back on the chocolate (I can't quite give it up completely). I'm getting close to my goal and my kidney scans have been good.

Kudos to all of us for deciding to improve our health!

eternalflame30
07-28-2012, 09:59 PM
Thank you all for your honest responses, I have enjoyed reading what your defining moment was, as it is the moment that changes our lives.

Lisa

luckystreak
07-29-2012, 12:31 PM
The day I decided I had enough is when I became the girl that hid from cameras, cropped every picture, and stopped posting them on my facebook. I knew that I wasn't just slightly chubby anymore like I used to be, I was bordering on obese.

camper67
07-29-2012, 05:03 PM
Got sick and tired of being sick and tired. Hated the way I looked and I overheard someone ask if I was "really my husbands wife"...I know he looked so much better than me and people would look at us like "what is he doing with her?" So so many things people said to me over the years hurt like ****. I gained a lot of weight after a medical diagnosis and the depression that followed..for 15 YEARS, and while that diagnosis still remains and will never go away, I now at least have control of this aspect of my life. When I get down about how my syndrome is effecting me, I feel better knowing I can at least look better and feel better in this regard. And now people ask "who is that 20 year old girl with (insert husbands name)?" And I am 45!!! ;-) Feels good now. Life is still challenging, but at least this part of my life is better!

Rana
07-29-2012, 05:31 PM
I was hospitalized and one of the tests they ran was an ultrasound that found a couple of gallstones. They recommended surgery immediately, but I didn't want it -- I wasn't in any pain and my hospitalization had nothing to do with the gallbladder.

But, because they thought I had an attack, I was put on a liquid diet, and I came to the realization that 1) I wasn't healthy, 2) I can live without food, and 3) the next time I was in the hospital, it might very well be to get gallbladder surgery if I didn't do something about my health.

It wasn't about weight... I wanted to lose weight, obviously, but I didn't know how I had gotten to my weight (lack of information/education) and I just wanted to be healthy. By becoming healthy, I lost weight, started to focus on what was going inside my body, came to the decision that if I was going to be healthy, I had to treat my PCOS/IR too, and all that avalanched into my healthy lifestyle today.

Even to this day, I don't do it for a number on the scale (although I do get on a scale and I do let it rule my world sometimes), I do it for my health.... how good I feel, how my lab results come back every year, whether I'm improving or getting worse (with exercise, lab results, weight, whatever).

BuddysBuddy
07-30-2012, 12:08 PM
Seeing my mother's agony when my brother died from a massive heart attack at age 45. He was overweight, had uncontrolled high blood pressure, diabetes and who knows what else. A year and a half later, she still has not recovered and probably never will. I can't let that happen to her again and also can't let it happen to my daughters and husband either. I struggle with high blood pressure and even being just 20 pounds overweight does not help. Health is the most important thing.

zoesmom
07-30-2012, 12:23 PM
My three year old ran up to me and gave me a hug. Then, looked up at me and said, "Mommy, why are you so big?"

I know she meant "tall" but my mind played it over as "fat." I decided right then and there I had to get healthy, not only for me, but for her too.

PinkLotus
07-30-2012, 12:31 PM
Mine wasn't one particular moment, but it was a realization that my daughter could pick up my terrible eating habits and end up just like me. I never want her to deal with what I've had to deal with when it comes to my weight. And I don't want her to have the unhealthy relationship with food that I have.
I've lost and re-gained in the past, but these thoughts are what are keeping me going this time. (As well as my own personal desire to be healthy and look better!)

SerenityDiva
07-30-2012, 12:47 PM
Like many, a picture...well that and I got winded when I used the vacuum. But the picture more so because with the vacuum I was sad, but with the picture I was angry which spurred me.

westcoast rosa
07-30-2012, 02:18 PM
Mine wasn't one particular moment, but it was a realization that my daughter could pick up my terrible eating habits and end up just like me. I never want her to deal with what I've had to deal with when it comes to my weight. And I don't want her to have the unhealthy relationship with food that I have.
I've lost and re-gained in the past, but these thoughts are what are keeping me going this time. (As well as my own personal desire to be healthy and look better!)

This exactly!! She is so healthy and I never want her to struggle like I have.

lm3898
07-30-2012, 03:57 PM
Mine was seeing pictures of my friend's wedding - I was in the wedding party was huge, definitely the biggest. I couldn't delete the evidence like I did with other photos. I had ordered the bridesmaid dress in a size 12 b/c I told myself that's what I still was, and had to get a rush order for a much bigger size. I had to stop lying to myself.

I was working out steadily/eating well for a bit but still smoking.

Four months ago I was in the hospital 3 times for trouble breathing/bronchitis/chest problems and upon leaving the ER the last time after a chest x-ray, I lit a cigarette - I thought my husband would kill me he was SO mad. That was my aha moment. Upon ditching the smokes, I've been able to push my body further than I ever though possible and I am LOVING it. I NEVER want to go back to that unhealthy/unhappy person.

Garnet2727
07-30-2012, 04:12 PM
I went to a routine doctor's appointment, stepped on the scale and saw 302. That hit me hard. After bawling for a bit after the appointment, bawling a bit more when I got home and talking to my husband, I signed up for WW that night.

AwShucks
07-30-2012, 10:08 PM
My moment came when I realized I was having trouble buckling the seat belt in my minivan. Eventually, I couldn't buckle it at all, so I would just hold it across me. I started losing weight in November (several years ago, I'm relosing after I regained) and the day after Valentine's day I was in an accident that totalled my car. Thank God I could wear the belt by then! My bruises indicated that without a seatbelt, I would've probably been thrown from the car and killed.

eternalflame30
07-30-2012, 10:45 PM
So many empowering stories on here. We all want the same thing, we all derive by the same need to be healthy. :)

dancinginpaint
07-30-2012, 11:13 PM
I had a lot of things happen along the way that should have been wake up calls. They were mostly superficial, the first time I went out with the girls and no one asked me to dance. The need for bigger sizes. The loss of balance and falling more frequently. Those were all points where I knew I needed to do something. What has really prompted me to make a commitment was actually, the suffering, and horrible health conditions of beloved family members. So because of this I have the desire to reach total health and fitness, not just fat loss. I am trying to keep my eyes to the future so that I don't get thrown by the past.

shellhev
07-31-2012, 12:28 AM
Mine really hasn't been one defining moment it's been several I have realized over time recently. I am tired all the time. Some days I feel like taking more than one nap in a day when I am off work. I used to have a big belly low in my stomach and lately I have noticed I have a roll under my bra area. I also have went through his Summer with my kids wanting me to take them to the amusement park in Ohio, King's Island, but I have repeatedly told them no because I know I probably won't be able to ride any of the roller coasters because of how big I have gotten. I love King's Island and roller coasters. I want to be able to do normal things that I once enjoyed. I hate being on the teetering edge of being able to find clothes in a normal store. I have just realized this is not who i want to be. You only get one life I want to live it healthier and look better and feel better about myself.

LuvMyMr
08-05-2012, 08:33 PM
I had a whole bunch of them including being too big for big girl clothes, obvious signs of pre-diabetes and really bad health. I suffered from bad depression for years but I didn't know it so I just ballooned up to over 300 pounds from about 170. The most recent aha moment for me were 2. One was not wanting to be intimate and being naked around hubby. The second was getting a glimpse of my tummy after using my shirt to wipe my tears after I put my cat down (this past tuesday) It was so emotional and I cried all day. After I lifted up my shirt I was standing in front of the mirror and saw my waist, wide and puffy with my folds and I was stunned. I couldn't even say or do anything but look on in horror and right then and there I knew I had to get it together. TMI but last night my hubby and I were intimate and I left my gown on but he said, why is this still on and took it off and I let him! Wow! That was a serious accomplishment for me. :)

Mer du Japon
08-05-2012, 11:59 PM
Seeing photos of myself.

devnet
08-06-2012, 04:30 AM
I honestly don't know. I'd been trying for weeks to get my motivation back. Then I just woke up one day completely determined to get healthy. I don't even recall my thought process. I just suddenly, out of the blue, was done with being fat, ashamed, and in pain all the time.