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activeadventurer
07-03-2012, 12:14 AM
My dear husband Mark died suddenly today. I am devastated and still in shock. They are doing an autopsy to detemime the cause of death.

I first found comfort at 3FC when I posted after our third date that he shared with me that he was a Type 1 diabetic and had already outlived his life expectancy. That was 7 years ago. I cried for three days and continued to date him. He was the love of my life and we just celebrated our third anniversary. As he would say "You knew the job was dangerous when you took it".

I have just started posting again at 3FC and have been doing really well with weight loss. I don't know if I will be continuing to check in for the next few weeks or how this will effect my eating and self care. It is hard to care about anything right now except the loss of my husband.

Denise aka active adventurer


bargoo
07-03-2012, 12:21 AM
Denise, I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. I will be praying that you will find peace at this time.Take care of yourself , come back when you can.

CanadianCutie
07-03-2012, 12:23 AM
I'm so sorry, Denise. You take care of yourself the best you can in this extremely difficult time.


TiffNeedsChange
07-03-2012, 12:23 AM
I am so sorry for your loss *hugs*

Neast
07-03-2012, 12:28 AM
Denise,
I will keep you and the family in my prayers. We willbe here if you need to vent or just " get away" for awhile. Take care of yourself.

Riddy
07-03-2012, 12:29 AM
Oh Denise, I am so sorry. :hug: I can't even imagine how awful this is for you. Take care of yourself as best you can. Be kind to yourself. You will be in my prayers.

alaskanlaughter
07-03-2012, 12:42 AM
i am so so sorry :( sending prayers and thoughts to you and your family...im so very sorry for your loss

synger
07-03-2012, 12:43 AM
I am so sorry for your loss! I can't begin to imagine how you are feeling. But know that we are here for you through whatever you need. You and your family and friends are in my prayers.

calluna
07-03-2012, 12:48 AM
:hug: there are no words. Take care, and we'll still be here for you.

penmage
07-03-2012, 01:36 AM
Oh, Denise, I'm so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family. Like someone else already said, we're here for you, whatever you need. :hug:

Arctic Mama
07-03-2012, 01:45 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss.

love2hike
07-03-2012, 02:40 AM
Oh my this is so hard to read that I can't even imagine how hard it is to live through. We are here if there is anything we can do. Please keep us posted and know that there is a large group of us who are holding you in our thoughts today and in the weeks ahead.

LaurieDawn
07-03-2012, 03:34 AM
Oh, Denise - I can't imagine anything more difficult than going through something like this. I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband. May you find some measure of peace as you go through the challenging days ahead of you.

Kitcherella
07-03-2012, 03:55 AM
Sorry for your loss. Words do seem unimportant at this time. Be strong.

irinaelenav
07-03-2012, 04:08 AM
soo sory to hear that.u have my prayers and we are here for u . keep strong(remember the good times u had with him)

Elliemar
07-03-2012, 04:37 AM
My condolences to you and your family. Stay strong & look after yourself.

lovemydoggiesx2
07-03-2012, 04:58 AM
Im sure words cannot comfort you at this time, but try to be strong and care for yourself. Big hugs.

time2lose
07-03-2012, 08:19 AM
Denise, I'm so sorry for your loss. :hug::hug: I just said a prayer for you.

stlrsgrl43
07-03-2012, 08:27 AM
You and your family are in my prayers.

alsten02
07-03-2012, 08:47 AM
So sorry for your loss.. -hug

sluggerbean
07-03-2012, 09:02 AM
Denise :hug:

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care.

PaulaM
07-03-2012, 11:06 AM
I'm so sorry for the loss of your dear husband

toastedsmoke
07-03-2012, 11:19 AM
There are no words, but I'm so sorry for your loss. You are definitely in my prayers! Sorry.

salsa chip
07-03-2012, 01:55 PM
Oh Denise, what awful news. You have my deepest condolences. I'll be saying prayers for you. Please look after yourself :hug:

graceandbalance
07-03-2012, 01:56 PM
I am so so so sorry! Your husband sounds like a great guy and you must miss him so much. Please take care of yourself in the days ahead.

healthyginger
07-03-2012, 02:17 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss and am sending prayers you way.

EagleRiverDee
07-03-2012, 02:24 PM
I am so very sorry to hear this. I will be keeping you in my prayers.

dcapulet
07-03-2012, 02:33 PM
I am so very sorry for your loss.

amandie
07-03-2012, 02:40 PM
I am very sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you and your family. Take care of yourself.

1987
07-03-2012, 02:52 PM
:( So sorry for the loss of your husband, may he rest in peace.

MoveMoveMove
07-03-2012, 02:57 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll be praying for you and yours.

Munchy
07-03-2012, 03:00 PM
I'm so sorry.

Justwant2Bhealthy
07-03-2012, 04:47 PM
:hug: DENISE ~ we will keep you & yours in our thoughts & ^prayers^ over the next while ... :hug:

toobig
07-03-2012, 06:27 PM
I am so sorry for your loss!

HealthyMeWannabe
07-03-2012, 08:59 PM
Oh my goodness, I am so sorry for your loss. :hug: :hug: :hug:

zogo
07-04-2012, 05:49 PM
Denise, I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how hard losing your husband might be. My thoughts are with you and I send you my heartfelt condolences and hugs.

Ramra
07-04-2012, 06:01 PM
I am so sorry. I can't pretend to understand the unbelievable pain that you are feeling, but you are in my thoughts. Hang on. Keep posting. We're here for you.

Much love,

Tamra S.

free1
07-04-2012, 06:56 PM
Sending you love and prayers....May God give you the comfort only He can provide. Just know there are people all over the world praying for you and sending you hugs....

astrophe
07-04-2012, 08:27 PM
There are never enough words.

Know there's always enough heart -- may you feel the warmth from family and friends as you (and Mark) move on through this life passage. My prayers will be with you.

hugs
A.

caramelkitty
07-04-2012, 09:21 PM
Im so sorry for your loss. I hope you find the courage and strength to get through this tough time. :hug:

dgramie
07-05-2012, 07:52 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. I will pray for you and your family.

LockItUp
07-05-2012, 11:42 AM
I'm so so very sorry! My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Goddess Jessica
07-05-2012, 12:14 PM
Words can't even give you the kind of comfort you need right now. Losing your husband is hard enough but to add that it was a sudden loss makes it even more unfair and heart-wrenching. I am unbelievably happy that you found each other and were able to spend those three anniversaries together. I hope that you find comfort in your memories and the love you shared.

WLGirl1
07-05-2012, 12:35 PM
Sorry for your loss.I didn't really know your story but will be thinking of you xxxxxxxxxxxxx

spinderella
07-05-2012, 03:14 PM
Sorry for your loss Denise, you have my condolences.

midwife
07-05-2012, 03:58 PM
Denise, I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

djs06
07-05-2012, 04:39 PM
Oh, Denise... I am so sorry.

:hug:

vegasgal
07-05-2012, 04:48 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss. Take care.

LAgreeneyes
07-05-2012, 05:11 PM
Denise, I am so very sorry to hear about your loss. You are in my prayers.

Dreamer2012
07-05-2012, 05:47 PM
Oh my goodness, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this moment. :hug:

Eliza31
07-05-2012, 06:13 PM
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. We are here to listen if you need more support. You will be in my thoughts. Again, I'm sorry.

linJber
07-05-2012, 06:53 PM
I am SO sorry - it sounds like you lived a wonderful - though short - love story with your husband. You are in my prayers. We're all here when you need us.

Lin

Beverlyjoy
07-05-2012, 06:59 PM
Denise... I am so, so sorry to hear this. Sending a hug and positive thoughts to you. Remember all those good stories and times you had together. Take care now.

graciegoose13
07-06-2012, 01:41 PM
sending love and thoughts your way.

activeadventurer
07-09-2012, 07:19 PM
I am still devastated and shocked. I am comforted by the sense that my Mark is at peace. Your thoughts and prayers are very meaningful to me, as I really believe in the power of prayer and good vibes. Please continue to keep me in your thoughts and prayers.

I could not bear to go without Mark to church this week but did begin planning his memorial. It is scheduled for July 19 at 6:30 pm. I can honestly say it is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. It makes cancer and heart surgery (both things I have experienced) seem not so bad. Very sad.

Mark decided several years ago to donate his body to medical science. I found this to be a comfort. I really appreciate sharing this with all of you.

Denise aka activeadventurer

mirax3
07-09-2012, 07:34 PM
I am so, so sorry for your loss. What a strong woman you are. Many good thoughts and prayers headed your way. :hug:

activeadventurer
07-18-2012, 09:15 AM
I so appreciate your thoughts and prayers. I get up every day and tell myself I can't do this and think the same thing every evening but I seem to just do it anyways. I am a little on auto pilot and cry a lot. Tomorrow is Mark's memorial. Please keep me and my family in your prayers

Denise

djs06
07-18-2012, 10:01 AM
:hug: :hug: :hug:

You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Matilda08
07-18-2012, 10:08 AM
So sorry for you loss! My prayers go out to you!

envelope
07-18-2012, 12:13 PM
Denise - you are on autopilot, and will most likely feel that way for a while to come. Take care of yourself. I lost a love in my early 20s. Some may think this is strange but at times I can still feel his presence, it feels like a gentle embrace on my soul.

May peace be with you.

dgramie
07-18-2012, 01:34 PM
hugs and prayers for you not only tomorrow but for many months to come. We are here whenever you need us!! Please take care of yourself!!

Smiling_Sara
07-18-2012, 02:45 PM
I so appreciate your thoughts and prayers. I get up every day and tell myself I can't do this and think the same thing every evening but I seem to just do it anyways. I am a little on auto pilot and cry a lot. Tomorrow is Mark's memorial. Please keep me and my family in your prayers

Denise

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. *Hugs*

Dumplin
07-18-2012, 06:18 PM
I am so sorry . May God be with you. He can help so much !

Dragonfly33
07-19-2012, 11:15 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. Keeping you in my prayers.

AudreyL
07-20-2012, 10:12 PM
I am so so sorry for your loss. I honestly can't begin to imagine what you are going through. I hope and pray that you continue to find the strength each day to continue to go on, and remember that your husband will always be in your heart and soul.

activeadventurer
07-23-2012, 12:22 AM
Thank you envelope and others. This has been the hardest thing I have ever done. Got through the memorial on Thursday but still feel like a basket case. The medical examiner's finding was that my husband died because his blood sugar was too high not his heart as was the preliminary
finding. I spend hours crying and still have great difficulty sleeping at night. I am looking to get involved with a grief group. I have the feeling this will take awhile.

I am in a very precarious financial situation. My husband lost his job two years ago and his benefits ran out 6 months ago. No life insurance etc. The really sad part is that he was getting back on his feet had had new benefits starting August 1. I believe his lack of health insurance/medications contributed to his death. I comfort myself with the fact that he died the way be ways said he wanted. Without blindness or loss of limbs due to his Type 1 diabetes.

I need to know I will get through this.

HealthyMeWannabe
07-23-2012, 09:31 AM
Honey, you will get through this. You're definitely going through the hardest thing you've ever experienced in your life. A grief support group ay help.

My husband's mom also died due to complications from her Type 1 Diabetes. He was 8 when his mom died and his dad had a very difficult time getting through it. Even to this day he still misses his wife. You'll always miss your husband but it will get easier.

:hug:

4star
07-23-2012, 09:43 AM
I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure you meant the world to him. I wish you healing and peace. Many prayers to you. :hug:

My father had a heart condition and on one of his best days, he passed instantly. It was devastating and I wish my Mother had gotten grief counseling. You can recover on your own but it's nice to find people you can relate to. What comforts me is that my Dad had a great day, was happily planning for the future, and never had to be confined to a bed worrying how we'd go on. It was shocking but I find lots of mercy in that he stepped almost seemlessly from this life to the next.


Make sure to contact Social Security so you can start to recieve his widow's benefits. It may not be much but he paid that money in and it can benefit you now with any unforseen expenses. Also, check into any accounts he may have had. You never know when he may have signed up for free or no cost life insurance policies upon opening an account. Many places offer things like that to their members and b/c they are just a piece of paper you sign, people may not remember. It's worth checking though. I know it's hard to think about but you need this help if it's available to you.

howie6267
07-23-2012, 01:53 PM
So sorry to hear about your loss. You will be in my prayers.

free1
07-23-2012, 02:18 PM
ACTIVE ADVENTURER....You will get through this. You are doing it already! You are stronger than you know and you've already proven it. We are sending lots of love and prayers to help carry you through. :)

activeadventurer
07-29-2012, 01:47 PM
Thanks to everybody for their support. It is going to take awhile. I am focusing now on staying in my apartment and continuing in school. I noticed I said my rather than our apartment. I still refer to my husband in the present tense. Bit by bit. It has helped me to come here and post.

Luba123
07-29-2012, 02:43 PM
So sorry for your loss. I know there isn't much anyone can say right now that can take your pain away. Though I would recommend a book on grieving once you are ready .. I found it helpful after losing my mother last year. If you are interested its called "The Grief Recovery Handbook - 20th anniversary edition. It was recommended to me by a psych nurse who has dealt with a lot of loss.

Again my condolences and thoughts are with you.
Luba

dervilfal
07-30-2012, 11:20 AM
Denise, I am so sorry for your loss. Your courage in all you are doing (moving forward with school, getting out of bed every day, having the courage to keep going) is inspiring. All of my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Sandi
07-30-2012, 01:22 PM
Denise - I am not sure I have words. To say that I am sorry for your loss doesn't seem to even touch how I feel. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. I guess all you can do is wake up every day and cherish the time you had and find a way to breathe. Time will never take away the loss, but somehow it helps. :hug: my friend...

erowley
07-30-2012, 01:36 PM
I am sorry Denise. This is terrible news. Know that you are cared for by everyone here.

Take good Care,
Elaine

Gardenwife
07-31-2012, 03:24 AM
Denise, Howie told me, but I just saw this thread. So, so sorry. My heart hurts for you.

DreamAngelsHeavenly
07-31-2012, 04:24 AM
My heart breaks for you... :sorry: I wish there were words or actions that could ease the pain... :( Alas, nothing will be able to and for that I apologize. :sorry: I am so sorry for your unimaginable loss... :hug:

Two quotes came to mind:


"Death cannot stop true love." - The Princess Bride

&

If ever there is tomorrow when we're not together... there is something you must always remember: you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think. But the most important thing is, even if we're apart... I'll always be with you. - Winnie the Pooh

You are in my thoughts and prayers. :hug:

Goddess Jessica
08-07-2012, 04:52 PM
Denise,
Just checking in on you. I think about you all the time. You may not be feeling up to posting but I want to let you know you're loved!

KittyKatFan
08-07-2012, 06:24 PM
Gosh, I am so sorry for your loss. Diabetes is such an evil disease. I hope it can be cured one day.

Wishing you and your family the best as you struggle through this incredibly difficult time.

Cassyb
08-08-2012, 11:58 AM
Hi Denise,

All I can truly say is that it is sad. I will keep you in my prayers. And look to the hills where your help comes from - The LORD!

Be strong and walk in faith.

Hugs
Cassy