Hang in there! The fact that you didn't binge after when it's a trigger for you, is a huge success! You are not alone in that. It's stressful to have that happen, and stress is a trigger for a lot of people.
Even at my heaviest, I embraced the lower cut/rise. With the right size, I don't think they look bad.
My favorite jeans by far, are from Maurices. They have an entire plus size area ( I'm not sure what size you are-but their plus size starts at 14 )
http://www.maurices.com/family/index...goryId=3846716
And their junior jeans have some 15/16, an 17/18 sizes.
I'm also a fan of Torrid jeans.