If you don't like competition, you can choose not to participate, but you can't choose the competitiveness of anyone else. You can only take yourself out of the "race" you can't sideline anyone else.
I don't think there's anything inherently wrong with competition. I realized recently that I do best with competition, so I'm rejoining TOPS (Taking Off Pounds Sensibly, a non-profit weight loss group).
I sat in on free meetings for the groups in my area, and decided against the closest meeting (only a few blocks from our apartment), because the group was too small and they were admittedly very laid back, and didn't do many "contests." (many groups do individual and team weight loss/exercise contests and challenges).
That being said, I'm more comfortable with competition from strangers than from family, but that's really my problem.
My sister recently told me that with mom getting her second knee surgery, I was going to have a hard time "keeping up" with Mom (in terms of weight loss). My mom lost about 80 lbs on WW and has kept at least 65 off. She wants to lose more, and her knees have always been her justification for not losing more. I don't consider my 85 lbs to be equivalent to my mom's 65, because she started with a lot less to lose (about 100 lbs less), so I'm still eating her dust, but because I've lost more weight, sometimes my mom feels that I'm "in the lead."
Just like any competition though, there are some rules for good sportsmanship. Being positive and encouraging to others, no name calling or put down's, no attempts to sabotage or undermine someone else's progress, allowing everyone a degree of "bragging rights" without resorting to "one-upmanship."
If someone is being a poor sport, you can try to draw it to their attention (friendly teasing tends to work better than scolding in my experience), but ultimately their competitiveness doesn't have to be your problem, unless you allow it to be. Roll your eyes, laugh at them in your head, whatever you need to do to keep it in perspective.
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