I understand why you are not going, but again, over time, you will feel "punished" by your new healthier lifestyle, because you are missing out on friends. If you have a partner who is also missing out, or missing going out with you , problems can result from that too.
While a movie may be too long, can you go to a party for an hour?
Once there, stay away from the food table, and go a talk with a few friends, then leave after an hour. Practice this over and over.
Since I decided to stop bingeing, I have had four "mini-binges" if you will. (less food, less bad stuff) a couple of them happened at parties. I have friends who have a living room with a small coffee table right in front of the couch, and if you sit on the couch, its all right there. So I over did it, even when I didn't think I was so bad. Now when I go there, I don't sit in front of the food, I choose a different seat. I knit. I leave early.
Everyone here kept talking about making a plan, and that is really helpful. You might not be able to stick to the plan perfectly, but it helps a lot, and if you go off plan a bit, you will still be doing much better than if you had no plan and just ate n ate. (and ate and ate and ate.....sorry its what I do if I don't have a plan, really!)
I am still working at learning all of this, I have a party tomorrow night, and we are going out for an anniversary dinner so I have to make a plan for that, and I am doing just that, even as I type.....
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