[Megan1982]

Morning all,

TGIF! I'm really feeling wrung out this week, but I suppose I've got 4 more weeks of it until this play is over (yes, I did it to myself ). Even though it's Friday and I don't have rehearsals tonight, I put a healthy meal in the crock pot for dinner, told BF I'm coming home, walking the dog, and then camping out on the couch in my sweats for a movie if he would like to join me. I sensed last night I wouldn't feel like cooking tonight. Tomorrow I'm going to the city w a girlfriend for some shopping and a "real" haircut (very excited! lately I feel like something the cat dragged in). I'm happy to be getting a 3 day weekend with MLK day Monday.

My exercise has been somewhat lacking this week. Some of it has been out of my control (Mother Nature has conspired against my dog walking this week), but my gym-ing has only been so-so. Lately I do some good cardio on the stairmaster, then get really bored the minute I start doing strength training. I've tried different exercises, different body parts, ... I will work to do better this long weekend.

Dagmar, I think they let pretty much anyone into any weight loss meeting, if you will pay the fee, lol. It might be a good idea - what do you have to lose by going to a few meetings, other than a few $s, to see if you connect with the other members and the support is helpful? But I guess it's sort of like dating. Sometimes it takes a few tries to find a group you connect with. Perhaps you could ask to sit in on one meeting for free to see if you like it before committing. Why not get on the computer and see what you can find in your area?

Michele, sorry about the fight between your daughters. How did they deal with each other when older DD lived at home? Do you have enough space that each one can just have "her own" section of the house for now? I know with your schedule there is no way you can stay home to "watch" them all the time. Maybe suggest to your younger DD to visit a friend overnight, if you can do it without making it seem like you're kicking her out. That might give everyone some space to calm down.

Jessica, one day when my dryer conks out I will get the matching one to the washer. I'll bet it will sing to me too!

Bill, my sis's fridge dings when left ajar, too. It really annoys me, I'm glad it's not my fridge! It's silly what things annoy you in another person's house.

What are everyone else's weekend plans?

[traveling michele]

Dagmar-- yes, you can join WW. You have to weigh a minimum amount, but you are above the minimum (they don't want people who are anorexic trying to join to lose weight). I love WW and the support. You should give it a try. If you don't like the leader or group you try, try another class. I attended several meetings with different leaders before I found the one that was truly inspirational and motivational.

Gary-- Thanks for the advice. I'll let my daughter know what you said.

Megan and others-- thanks for the support. The girls never got along when they were both at home. Now, older dd has been out of the house for almost 4 years, and only comes home infrequently. The funny (to me, not to them) is the thing they are so wound up about is a new couch. The couch was a present to myself and my dh for Christmas from my in-laws. It was delivered while I was at yoga (when the blow-up occurred). They argued over where their "spot" would be on the new couch, and whether or not our old pillows and blankets should be allowed. Since the argument became so much bigger, now they aren't speaking to each other. Older dd thinks younger dd should apologize since younger dd is the one that yelled (older dd left the house rather than lose her temper). I tend to agree with her as her Tourette's was so horrible that night due to the anxiety and younger dd could see that and should have felt some responsibility. However, I'm really trying not to get involved. This weekend will be very interesting as tonight we are going to younger dd's choir concert. I'm praying that older dd doesn't try to back out, because younger dd has stated repeatedly that her sister has never been to a concert, and this is the one time she is home. Also, the choir teacher has offered to help us have a fundraising dinner (with choir concert) to help raise money for older dd's service dog.... so the next few months should prove interesting if they can't at least be civil to each other. Since I am an only child I've never had to deal with sibling issues so it truly bothers me. Poor dh is traveling and these things always happen when he is gone, so he just worries and frets from afar.

So, this weekend... hmmmm....
Tomorrow (Saturday) I will be working WW from very early (6 am) until about 1 pm. Younger dd will leave to babysit for the day in the morning, so hopefully older dd sleeps in and they don't interact! Not sure what I (we) will do the rest of the day, but I may need my bikram yoga to unwind! Sunday, I also work in the morning. Not sure what we'll do the rest of the day. Monday should prove interesting as we don't have school. So much for my idea of us all getting pedicures together-- older dd will need to be packing to leave Tuesday early, so she may just be doing that. We'll see.....

[Megan1982]

Funny what we can fight over, when the fight is not about the object in question at all. Michele, you should tell them neither is allowed a "spot" on the new couch until they make up! Then you sit on it and enjoy the relative peace your own couch oasis provides.

[alinnell]

Originally Posted by EZMONEY

MICHELLE thank your "older one" for me for the wonderful thank-you card I received today!


ALLISON! I keep forgetting to tell you that, although Angie meets up with her sister at South Coast Plaza once or twice a year, I have not been there to see the shadow box. I drive past the mall often when I travel the 405. Maybe one day I will sneak over there or have Angie pull in one night coming home from visiting her sister in Huntington Beach.

I got a lovely thank you card yesterday as well! I left it out for DH to read. He read it, came up and asked who it was from and I explained. He said that was really nice and to let you know we'll help further if she needs it.

Gary, if you do sneak over there let me know what you think.

[bargoo]

Michelle, is it possible that your daughter resents her sisters Tourette ? She may not even be aware that it is troublesome to her in some way. Does she think her sister gets more attention becuase of the Tourettes, attention that she might feel is being taken away hrom her. I am not a psychiatrist, but just wondered if this was a little more than ordinary sibling rivalry.

[iriswhispers]

Dagmar, I've considered weight watchers before and had the same thought - I talked to a friend who went and she said actually about half of the women in her group were "average"/maintaining size. I never ended up going because of the cost, but I think having a group (face to face) would be really helpful.

Michele, sorry to hear your daughters are having it out with each other. I do love Megan's solution, though! Hopefully as they get older they will learn to get along better. I forget how old they are, but I have a friend in her late 20's with an older sister and they are really just starting to appreciate each other. I hope that happens for your girls.

Megan, I'm with you on getting back to the exercise this weekend. I've also been a straggler this week. Enjoy the haircut - they always make me feel so much better! (speaking of which... I really need to schedule one myself...)

[Mudpie]

There is a Weight Watchers meeting held about 1/2 kilometer from my house every Thursday night. I'm gonna check it out next week! First visit is free.

Dagmar

[traveling michele]

Originally Posted by bargoo

Michelle, is it possible that your daughter resents her sisters Tourette ? She may not even be aware that it is troublesome to her in some way. Does she think her sister gets more attention becuase of the Tourettes, attention that she might feel is being taken away hrom her. I am not a psychiatrist, but just wondered if this was a little more than ordinary sibling rivalry.

Yes,yes, and yes! We are working on this as we see it as an issue. Younger dd is and has always been frightfully independent, so it is a battle to offer her attention when she pushes back. Yet she still wants it . They both see or talk to a trusted psychologist so they can talk about what they might not be willing to share with us.