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Originally Posted by Larry H

Thin Desire

Your weight loss is an inspiration to me. Congratulations!!

My highest was 360 about a year ago. I am now at 242 which is a 118 pound loss from my highest. I list 317 on my profile and weight ticker because that is what I was on January 6 of this year when I joined this forum. I was very discouraged and I was regaining my lost weight rapidly until I joined 3FC. This forum has turned my life around.

Another guy,

Larry,

That's wonderful progress, congrats! Yeah I regained a little more than 100 lbs from the beginning two years ago. I've gotten most of that regain off, just about 30 lbs to go. It's hard, but it can be done, I just keep on truckin. You're in inspiration, yourself!

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Originally Posted by runningfromfat

First off, my DH is little taller than you and started at your current weight. Yeah, he was overweight but not huge horrendously fat. Now, it would totally depend who you asked, though, because in the states he'd be pretty normal but going to Europe or S. America he'd get a lot of very mean comments.

He's now to almost 250 but he really has to get closer to 200 (maybe 220?) before those here in Europe or S. American or going to consider him normal. In the US he'd be normal still. So totally relative.

I feel I'm also on that border between something. I'm not horrendously fat anymore but definitely not thin either (I still have a long ways to go before I get there!). It's a weird continuum to go down...

Yeah, I'm totally feeling this. This is my big issue at the moment. I'm American and live in the U.S., so when I got down to 260, I was "normal fat" to most people and when I got to the 240s, I was being called "thin" by a lot of people and in all seriousness would have comments from average weight girls tell me they wish they were as "thin" as me, and I was like...uhh...I weigh over 200 lbs, and they wouldn't believe me.

Yet, I have a Filipina stepmother who is really condescending and rude toward my weight and it's very hard. To her, even after I'd lost over 120 lbs, I was seriously "super obese" and called "lazy" and that I "have no respect for myself" because of my size, etc. amongst other things by her, I think because the Philippines has one of the world's lowest rates of obesity outside of sub-Saharan Africa. Something like 2.9%. Japan's is somewhere around 4% in comparison, and they are notoriously "anti-fat" (sumos excepted).

So this reason is one of the main reasons my ultimate goal weight is somewhere around 165 when most people would recommend 200 or so. But I don't want to use her as a crutch, it is also my ultimate desire as well, it just so happens that we "agree" on this issue. But, it's one of the reasons why I am posting at a diet forum, so that when I reach a healthy weight I can have a healthy perspective on that weight and what looks good on me, I don't want to get too thin, and it's so hard to know because it's like two worlds - out in real life (when I am in the 240s), I am called "thin" (as opposed to fat), not thin, thin. And, fit in with the average-size crowd (overweight BMI), but when I'm around her I'm "grossly obese" and feel like a freak. She even held a "prayer ceremony" to cast the "demon of gluttony" from me. Long story. She's very religious.

My own mom passed away five years ago, and I was my greatest friend and supporter.

It doesn't help that I went down from 6x and 4x shirts to 2xl and xl but remained in "3xl" sizes from her country because of the sizing difference between her country and the U.S. when I'd receive clothing from there. A Philippines 3xl is the equivalent of a U.S. xl. It was very damaging to my morale.

At any rate rambling, lol.

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Originally Posted by aggie2006

2 things, 1. how is your 275 ''really fat'' and his 240 not in his eyes? i dont get it....its not like hes 150 and anything in the 200's may seem large. you are very close in weight for him to say that.
2. how long is he your friend? hasnt he seen you're phenomenal loss? im shocked he didnt say, daaaaamn! your almost my weight, way to go?

anyway, you're an inspiration!

I don't think he really meant anything bad by it. He just said it in passing. In fact, I don't think weight's really a huge deal with him. He mentions food a lot but has never had a problem with his weight in the past, and he works out now and then, so I'd mentioned my weight in passing before.

But yeah, I was surprised with how tactless his comment was, but some guys just last tact, lol. What really surprised me though was how big he was. I know he's been working out lately, but he mentioned he's been eating lots and it's hard on his feet, so I don't think it's all muscle. I think I was just surprised at how big he was himself, I think that's what shocked me, the disconnect there.

I think it's because in his mind, he is still a skinny guy, and I have the opposite problem, in my mind, I am still the 400+ lb guy. I think I will always have an internal fat guy in my mind even when I hit 200 or 180 or whatever my final weight will be at, since I've been fat all my life, it's a part of my identity, whether I like it or not. I will need to retrain myself. It's hard because when you get thinner, people really DO treat you way different than before. And, as an innocent, you find the world is even a bit...crazier...than you'd imagined. So it's a big adjustment taking in comments people make and such.

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Thank you everyone for the kind words and encouragement! It means a lot to me! {{{}}}