I need to vent. I hope maybe people who have more life experiences can support me and give me advice.
Before I lost weight, I was in a relationship which ended last year. I found myself alone, had to move house and remain in england by myself. Whilst losing weight, I was also liking my wounds -relationship wise, so I was pretty low and kept focusing on me.
fast forward to "lately + new thin body". I have been told always I have a pretty face.
Me? when I look in the mirror, i do not see any major facial flaws, but that's about it. Sometimes, i do find myself pretty, but i think everyone does that! I basically consider myself more than the sum of my parts. I am cultured, funny, a musician, and many many more things. Back home, in greece, i have a lot of deep and meaningful friendships which have been my main support network through everything.
I cannot make friends in england.
Lately I am being hit on and on, and on some ways i am sick of it, because when i declare my disinterest, people tend to disappear. why?
i am not particularly flirty.maybe there's an english-mediterranean barrier i do not seem to understand.
all i want is some friends. people who have space for another person in their lives. but no, i get hit on and when i say "look, but, i thought we were friends... :/" people run off.
this happens with both men and women, and whilst i am not interested in men sexually at all, even with women i have not found one that it really "clicks" in order to push things forward in a romantic level.
i have thought about this for many days. and to a point, it might be a ridiculous post "booohoooo people flirt with me". how sad is that? but trust me.. when you're on your own, in another country, and all you want is a real friend... it sucks not to have one.
i have even thought if a solution would be to put weight back on and disappear again as a flirting candidate. but not to worry, it won't come to that. i lost weight for myself and i will keep it off for myself.
what am i doing wrong?
. I understand because as I lose weight i'm getting more attention and I don't like it. but instead of stopping in my weightloss, ive pushed forward and try to distance myself from people in other ways (like mentioning that I would like to learn Klingon). I would start off by looking in the paper or craigslist for groups that interest you. That would at least put you in situations that would bring you with people connected with an interest other than flirting and hopping into bed. The bad thing about clubs and such is the vast majority of folks are going to have fun and maybe hookup for the night. you could also post in the platonic friends sections of papers that you are looking to meet new people to do activities that interest you.
