Hey, Hamoco, I hope this place makes you feel not so alone... This seems to be a pretty great place to share your triumphs/tribulations with people who really get it and understand.
It's one of the reasons I came here. Trying to celebrate the loss of 5 lbs with the co-worker who is 15 years younger and has never crossed the threshold of 120 lbs in her life just doesn't work!
If I share it with my family (parents, siblings), I get suggestions for how I could do it even better, or questions as to why it wasn't more, etc. And then it just becomes a control issue for me...
My son and husband are appropriately supportive for the most part, but this forum seems to be more of what I am looking for.
The daily ups and downs are usually shared between the members of my immediate family because we all work out regularly at the same gym. Beyond that, some close friends may get a phone call when I hit the major markers (10 lbs, 15 lbs, 20 lbs, etc.) or I'll tell them when asked, but otherwise I don't generally advertise the changes.
I tell my husband and my best friend. The only times I've told others is when I hit my mini goals. I'mm trying to motivate a few friends with my journey, some are also joining the race too. YAY!
I didn`t initially. So often, I have told others about my great planned and then I have lost nout. This time, I have lost and not told people. I wanted to wait until they notice and know that any comments passed are genuine. I`ll now say things like, I`ve put last year`s winter wardrobe on ebay as it`s too large, etc, but not a lot more than that.
I do tell others about my sucess but sometimes i wish i haven't because i feel that there is a pressure to show them that i never eat unhealthy food. Like on Halloween i reached for a choclate bar and my sister smacked it off my hand cause she knew i was trying to eat healthy. But come on can't i just have one little piece. I just feel that i have to be the perfect person who is trying to lose wieght and who never slips up but i do! I just don't show them cause they will be on me like vultures staring at me like damn..................... idk i just wish i never told anyone and let them see if they see any changes in my body t hen i would tell them yes i did lose weight but i wouldn't reveal how much i loss
I don't tell anybody. When I was younger and would start trying to lose weight, I would tell my parents, and they would just scoff and really not believe me, and they had this little "shocked" act when I would say "I'm headed to the gym". It drove me crazy. Yes, mom and dad, I understand that I've been lazy and I'm not the best eater, and I understand that you've heard this before, but every time they did that, it was like, twist the knife a little deeper why don't you!
My husband would NEVER be like that, but it's happened so often that I'd rather just keep it to myself and let them see the weight come off. We all have to start somewhere, and I don't need them holding me back!
Too many times in the past when I've tried to diet, I've told people ... my family, friends, people I work with ... and I always end up feeling under pressure, as though everyone is watching me ... and some just waiting for me to slip up! I hate it if I've had a bad week and people start to ask how much I've lost that week,. This time, I've only told my husband, daughter and mother that I'm trying to lose weight ... but they don't know how much I weigh, and I only update them if they ask. The only person that I have completely confided in is my best friend as we are doing it together ... we've started to weigh-in together each week, and if we have a bad week we don't feel embarrassed that each other knows, and we are keeping each other motivated.
I tell my "soon-to-be", my BF and my Pod-mate because she is on WW too. Other than that only when asked. Also I will tell how much I have lost but not my weight.
My DH is right there with me (has been for years) so he pretty much knows about EVERY pound up or down.
My long time friends have also seen me up and down so they really don't want to hear it and I don't talk about it. Even if they they bring it up I will just tell them that I'm not on a "diet" this time, just eating less and moving more; something I can live with for life.
As for my family that is a tough one; we (3 girls) have all had weight issues all our lives and of the three I was the smallest and have even been "normal" a couple times. They look at me and will say "what weight problem". It will be interesting, we are all getting together for a week at Thanksgiving and I can hear it now.... "you're getting too thin". I've been trying to come up with some good come backs that won't make them feel like crap but the fact of the matter is their perception of "normal" is warped.
There are actually a lot of people who know I'm trying to lose weight. My bf and his roommate and all his friends and my friends and my parents and friends of the family and people at church...blah blah etc. lol.
Originally I just told my best friend, my bf, and my parents...but my mom talk a lot and she's really proud of what I'm trying to do so she's told a lot of people...and I've been in a lot of situations where I've had to be like "no thank you" when either my friends or the bf's friends offer me food or alcohol, and they ask me why...so I tell them "I'm on a diet and I don't need the calories"
It doesn't really bother me that so many people know. I know that I will make it to my goal, I'm not worried. Yeah occasionally I might eat something I'm not supposed to, and I might gain a bit back....but if I've lost it once, I can lose it again. I WILL eventually make it.
I'm actually glad that so many people know. My best friend was starting WW at home around the same time that I was...so I can talk to her about it and she'll understand....and BOTH my bf (6'1" and 270 lbs..and he carries it ALL in his belly) and my mom (5'7" and around 250 I think) have been talking about how they want to lose weight. They still have a lot of excuses...money and time being the big ones...but the more they see me lose the more I can see them making healthier choices (my mom was a soda addict, and now only drinks crystal light...and the bf now drinks slimfast or eats a single granola bar (instead of the 4 or 5 he used to eat) for breakfast instead of buying drive-through on the way to class)...
I guess I don't mind people knowing because I can see other people being inspired by my success, and I'm just glad that I'm able to help people decide they want to be healthier. =D
