mayness- you're right, our husbands should be freaking thrilled.
We do not have an open relationship or anything, but that doesn't mean my mind can't occasionally wander.
i came out in high school- i lost a couple of friends, one that was my best friend for like 7 years and was a part of the family, went on vacations with us, etc. that sucked. but it's her loss not mine if you ask me.
when i met my husband i was pretty much convinced i was done with men all together, and i still think that if things don't work out with him and i he'll be the last.