Hi Spiritangel I can relate, unfortunately. Last year we lost my father-in-law to cancer (we supported him for almost 10 years), we lost two businesses, my father-in-laws home, my husbands best friend to cardiac arrest, our bank accounts, all savings, and for the most part most of our valuables we had to sell. It was ****, literally. Through this I watched my weight go up, my husband weight go up along with his health deteriorating from the stress of it all. He was sinking into depression and through it all we now have nothing......or do we? The last month I have done some deep inward soul-searching, realizing I can't yell or blame him - I love him. We are blessed because we have each other, our children, our health still, our love and food on the table - well not the table we had to sell it, but food on the ......... bed! LOL.. funny. I can't yell or blame him because it is as much my fault as his - what more have I done than him? Not much at all. He can't help the economy, and my blaming him does nothing, but make him feel more unworthy because he hasn't been able to 'fix this.'
It is hard, but we will make it. I feel to help is to be positive, have faith, and support him in any way possible. God will never give us more than we can handle and this past year was unbelievably hard, but we made it and the only way to go now is UP!
I will be praying for you, and realize 'many' are in worse positions than us - they don't have homes.
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