how interesting that everyone has such a similar answer. i will have to read the book by C Fairbourne when i have a chance. But i'm kind of drained from reading self help books for the moment and am taking a break with some enjoyable works of fiction.
well, here's something just to share then.
Although i didn't have a bad childhood, and i never doubted that i was loved by my parents at the end of the day, I did not have a close, close bond with either. I had a big family, so one on one was infrequent.
My father was the most distant, always at work, and emotionally distant and with an explosive temper when he was home.
I was always more comfortable with my mother. But always felt i was vying for her attention.
I think she rejected me in subtle ways that made a big impact. I know now that she favors my older and youngest brothers. I wonder if i knew it subconsiously when i was a young child.
I wonder if i would be more secure if i had more supportive parents growing up? I know that i can't go back ,and i don't expect my parents to be perfect people, i know they did the best they could.
well, i guess there are all sorts of reasons a child can grow up feeling alone and vulnerable, probably as many different scenarios as there are people.
i suppose we learn ways to be strong and deal with life, and unfortunately we turn to the comfort of addictions too. how sad.
and Mychoice2bfit, i don't really have a good way to feel more secure and deal with my bingeing . I've tried many things, but as you can see, i'm still here.
i know that if i avoid sugar and processed foods, i loose my craving, but come on, it's pretty hard when we are bombarded on all sides by donuts, brownies, and kisses.
Sometimes i try to do mindful breathing, but haven't been able to make it a regular habit. and i want to do yoga, but am having a hard time getting into a class by some odd twists of fate
i'd like to hear what others have done to feel more secure and less anxious as well.