WOW..My mom was just as nasty.
Don't expect her to change at all.
My mom was nasty and rude until she died.
I learned at a very young age...10...to use my friends parents as role models, and not pay any attention to my own.
I could not count on either one of them for support.
So just get on with your life and keep your mom out of yours as much as possible. She will just leave you with bad memories. You want to limit those as much as possible.
My mothers rude comments never ended. She never in her life ever gave me a compliment. Never said she liked my hair, dress, shoes, or praised my accomplishments in school or in the workforce. I was successful and also a model until I gained weight with my kids birth.
She never commented positively about anything I did. Everything was a putdown.
She made negative statements about all her friends and relatives behind their backs. She never carried on a nice conversation with me.
I always wondered how I would react when she died. I did not shed a tear. It was a relief she was gone.
I cry during movies, reading sad stories, losing pets, funerals, weddings, and even reading Hallmark cards.
But when my parents died...nothing.
They created the situation. It took them years. They had a lot of time to think about how they were acting. They chose their poor behavior, and it didn't work out well for them.
I was in the hospital undergoing an emergency operation to save my life.
It took a couple of hours to fly in the blood I needed. They got tired of waiting, so they left to go shopping and never inquired until the next day about me.
The doctor was shocked. He never experienced something like that.
And they didn't drink or do drugs.
So it is best to ignore your mom for your own sanity. And make a decision to never be like her... and to treat your kids with respect and kindness.
You will lose weight and so will I. Love yourself because you are a precious and unique person.
