I have this guy friend, we've been friends for almost a year now. Things between us have been getting increasingly closer over this time; we exchange racy aims and we talk or email or text or aim everyday usually quite a bit. When we see each other at grad school he always finds a way of telling me I am pretty and he always makes reasons for us to play "handsies" and we hug a lot (that sounds silly lol), also he likes to fist-bump with me like the Obamas lol. So, he knows I like him but when I first told him he was so surprised, he thought I was out of his league and "wasnt sure" how he felt about me "romantically," that was 4 months ago. Since then I have asked him if he was attracted to me and his response was "absolutely" but later that he didn't see how it was a big deal. Umm wt*?? Anyways I have learned that he lost about 50lbs a couple years ago and he is/was a bit of a geeky kid and he thinks I was like miss popular in high school and college etc. but I wasn't! Geez. So, he calls me his BFF but no more. I like him sooooo much and I don't want to lose him as a friend but I also feel (I think quiet rightly) that he is playing around with me a bit (but, I don't think he really realizes this because I honestly highly doubt he would do something to so consciously hurt me, he just is not that kind of person). Now, I know a girl in college hurt him real badly (unrequited love I think) and that he tends to like girls who are "unavailable." And I also question how "experienced" he is (even though he is almost 25). And I do *know* (as far as one can) that he definitely isn't gay.
So, I just wanted to vent. This is a sucky situation and I don't have any real good options short of: A.) putting up with it, or B.) telling him I have to cut it off because our "bff" friendship is too hurtful for me.
I'm just sooo frustrated!!! He is the only guy I have every really genuinely "liked" in my whole life (I'm 25). I just don't know what to do as my own "experience" is so very limited.
Thoughts???? Anyone have advice? Comments? Commiserations?