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Originally Posted by sh3l5
if love makes u fat....
does unhappiness make u thin?....
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This is a really legitimate question.
I'm not sure what your relationship is with this guy (ie, whether it is truly positive or a negative influence.) And I know that nobody can make you feel good about yourself except you. However, at least in my experience, sometimes people CAN make you feel bad.
Last year, I dated a guy who I was completely infatuated with. In my mind, he could do no wrong, and there was nothing I wanted in the world other than for him to love me and want to be with me. So you'd think that dating him would make me feel good, right? Well, over the months that I was with him, my binge-eating was out of control. I'd see him and (just like you said) I'd want to eat. I couldn't understand how I could seemingly feel so happy and yet so awful at the same time.
It was only after we broke up (he turned out not to be such a great guy after all) that I finally realized how many things had been going wrong in our relationship, and how often I had ended up using food to cope with my insecurities about him. In hindsight, he didn't really treat me all that well (even though at the time it didn't seem that way.)
My point is this: it can be easy to get a little 'blinded by cupid' when you're falling for someone. But if he loves you and you love him back, and if you two truly have a positive and fulfilling relationship, then being around him shouldn't fuel hurtful behavior on your part. I don't want to suggest that there's anything wrong with your relationship, but do consider why you might feel compelled to eat or sabotage yourself when around him (it's probably more than just because he suggests you go get chinese.)
Also, remember that you can always say no or explain that you are trying not to eat junk food if he suggests it. And if he claims that you are fine the way you are, you could say something like "I'm happy that you love me as I am, but I really want to make this lifestyle change for my own health and happiness." If he is respectful of you, he will respect that, not try to sabotage it. And if you find that you can't communicate that to him, you might want to think about why it is you are afraid to do so.
Other than that...good luck and i'm glad you are in love