It sounds to me like you are in a hurry to create a married family life that will be everything that you didn't have as a child. And on top of that, you perceive your fiancee as the "rescuer". I'm not criticizing that at all! It's completely understandable. And I'm also not saying that you and your fiancee don't have a good relationship or that he's not a good guy. So first of all, ban this woman from your e-mail list so that she cannot send you ny more mail. Do NOT buy into her poison and do NOT respond! People like this thrive on drama and when you just ignore her, she'll realize how small she is in the scheme of things. I can understand being hurt to find out he made a move on her but come on, he was 16! If it even happened. 16 year old boys are just hormone factories so I wouldn't judge him too harshly. Talk to him about, yes but don't let it unravel your relationship. I'm guessing it brought up alot of painful memories about his affair andthat's why it's so hard for you to deal with this allegation. I'm glad you are seeking counselling with your minister but I wonder if you might consider a professional counsellor, as well?
The best way to deal with a person like this ex-friend of your's is to live well and be happy. Don't let her cause a rift between you and your fiancee and don't give her the satisfaction of a response. Ignore her and she'll slink back into the cess pool she came from.
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