I can relate to the person who is pretty thin but feels awful when she gains any weight. Even after I lost 20 pounds to get back to my goal weight, I saw my "bad" spots in the mirror. At 47, my skin is looser, so I have "flab" that I may never get rid of. I've worked so hard and overall feel so good, yet I am frustrated with the loose skin.

I saw a thread about loose skin on here the other night but cannot find it now. Anyone know where it went? I don't know how to find it!

It is ridiculous for you to think that smaller people have no problem maintaining their weight. That is not the reality and that belief may be the cause of many overweight people who lost regaining their weight after "completing" their temporary "diet".

Just like an overweight person who loses doesn't just stay at their new low weight with ease with life now being all easy and hunky dory (i.e. eating whatever they want at whatever amount they want and not exercising). For the average slim person out there its not their fast metabolisms or genetics.

There are exceptions of course, but those types usually dont even talk, much less think, about their weight. They're the types - the very RARE type - who can either take or leave food or who might love being active so they've never been ones to put on weight (and as they get older that will often change..ha ha), but these people honestly have never had to think about weight so its just not in their repertoire to even mention (even for fished compliments and that). I even know some thin people (DH and his gorgeous little sister are examples) who are actually a tad embarrassed by their thinness (the sister wanting more curves).

I must agree that its really truly tacky to discuss your little weight problems with an obese person. I mean come on, what kind of judgment does someone like that have?

Red, I didn't mean you said you're fat; sorry! guess I meant more that you're on a weight loss site so obviously feel a bit, shall we say chunky?, rather than fat. LOL

I didn't take any offense to your post. Yes, I'm a little chunky, Miami.

I lost 20 pounds this fall. Since then, I've been in a holding pattern. I haven't been actively trying to lose more weight, but would like to at some point. I kind of want to get used to being where I am.

I came to this board when I was about at the weight I am now. You know, what? I feel so much better about myself and my body now than I did then.

I can say that I'm not fat and know that deep down inside!

Maybe this is a little off subject, but i want to say this. Part of this thread talks about how females tend to hate their bodies and put themselves down alot, especially in the presence of others. Men, on the other hand, seem more accepting of their flaws, and less vocal about them. I certainly wish I could be like that.... Females tend to think of vanity as some sort of competition.

You know, I don't know about the rest of you ladies, but I don't think I will ever be truely happy about my body. Even if I do lose this weight, which I am determined that I will, my skin is so stretched out that I don't think it will ever shrink back, I have ten zillion stretch marks between my chest and my hips, and I am excessively hairy for a female. I have screwed up my hormones so much that I even have facial hair, which I have had lasered several times now (and after 2 years, about 50% of it is still gone). And, about 30% of my body is covered in tiny bumps (I have no idea why). I have so many flaws that I tend to want to dwell on them, and I tend to want to tell others that they are there before they have a chance to notice them on their own, and say something to me about it, becuase I am so self concious about these things, you see...

I agree that this may be why some thin people tell us they think they are getting fat, becuase maybe they are really self concious about it, and want to tell others before they notice it on their own, and comment on it. These people are not trying to be insensitive.

But I also think that there are others just want to reassured that they are not fat for an ego boost, or to rub larger people's noses in the fact that they are smaller than them... These are the ones who are hateful and insensitive.

I love my body NOW, and I loved my body 30 pounds ago, and I loved my body 30 years ago. I am very fortunate that I never bought in to that societal bull about the-way-women-should-look.

If you feel attractive, you will be attractive. If you feel you look like crap, that's what you'll send out.

That said, I did not like it that I was overweight. I finally, finally got it that I could change it but it had to be a permanent change.

Someone who's stuck at 154 feels frustrated, just as someone stuck at 174, or at 255, or at 310. So we can all relate to that feeling.

If we would just be mindful and kind about what we say...

Jay

Yabbut, men also sit around burping and farting and scratching you know where.

Good point....

I mean, we all know that guys are windbags, but I wonder why they scratch that area so much??? hmmmmm