This morning I was thinking about all I've learned from this forum and thought I'd ask everyone else to pick one thing that's really helped them. I will say upfront that the thing that most affected me I learned from Apryl. Apryl, I don't mean to put you in the spotlight, but it was such a profound thing that I want to say thanks.
My daughter has gained a bunch of weight since boot camp, and I thought maybe it would help if I told her I'd buy her some new clothes if she lost weight. Then I read about Apryl's problem with her Dad and how what she wanted from him was unconditional love and acceptance. I felt so bad because I was not giving my daughter that unconditional love and acceptance, but was falling into the things my parents used to do--which didn't work at all. I want to be that safe place for her to come to no matter what, and even giving her a hint that she's not okay the way she is, well, it's unacceptable to me. So, thank you, Apryl, for teaching me that extremely valuable lesson.