This morning, while walking down the hallway at work, I had a coworker shout behind me "Hey skinny lady! You're looking gorgeous!"
When I put this on Twitter, I had a friend reply back with "So you were a dirtbag before? Sorry but I find comments like that annoying."
I mean, I understood her position, but it left me feeling deflated. I've lost 51 pounds so, yes, I am more gorgeous than I was 9, 10 months ago and I will own it. 311 pounds CAN be beautiful and sexy but it's a matter of attitude. I didn't feel happy or healthy or pretty or attractive at 311, but I do at 260 and I think the happiness on the inside is making me glow on the outside, adding to the whole gorgeous bit. I'm proud of what I've done, losing 51 lbs, and I know I still have a lot more to go, but finally for the first time feeling pretty -- and feeling pretty at 260 lbs -- has given me a level of confidence I haven't had before.
So, you know what? If someone wants to tell me I'm gorgeous, I'm going to thank them and not see it as backhanded or insulting or whatever. Because I happen to agree
(Yesterday, when another coworker stopped me to say how cute I was looking, she added "Well, you were cute before. Now you're just cutER.")