Downer at my Meeting Wednesday
 

I'm sure everyone has that one person who really makes their weekly meeting unbearable, well I shouldn't say every meeting but quite often. There is one lady who really made me angry Wednesday and I spoke to my leader about her after the meeting because it bothered me THAT MUCH!

Since she signed up she has done nothing but complain about how she has ONLY lost .2 or .4, etc at each weigh in and we try to tell her that a loss is a loss which is great. I have offered this woman free passes to the gym to try a Zumba Class with me or just workout period and she always says no. I offered it because hey it's 12 days free and there is NO obligation to sign up after. I KNOW she would see some results if she started exercising but she refuses to (She doesn't have issues with her knees or any illnesses that prevent her from exercising.)

So here's my issue and I haven't had a problem with her directly until Wednesday. My leader likes me to announce my weight because she feels it keeps current and new members motivated to keep going! So when I said "I've lost 86.6lbs" this woman gave me a look that would even make Satan want to run and hide! I mean hey it's not my fault she is miserable, I've busted my hump every week to get where I am.

Now I'm wondering what I should do next Wednesday if I should get the same reaction?! I'm not a mean person but I'm really at the end of my rope here!

what an amazing weight loss, congrats. Unfortunately you may not be able to do anything to help this woman it seems she clearly doesnt want any. I would just plain leave her alone and try to avoid her face when annoucing your weight.

Congratulations on a great loss. Ignore this woman , she is miserable wherever she is, it has nothing to do with you. She is a grouch.

Sit where you can't see her, so when she shoots daggers at you you won't notice. You can't do anything about people like that. They are miserable no matter what.

And rock on with your bad self (and your 86 fewer pounds!) :carrot:

Thanks guys!! You're absolutely right, I'm just going to sit with my back to her. I was seriously thinking about going on a different day because it's that bad. Even my leader said the meetings aren't cheerful when she's there.

boy what is up with that? I never knew someone could bring a whole crowd down like that. Especially in a positive place... that is strange.

i would be sitting next to you for sure. I did that this week. There is a lady who they are celebrating next year for her 100 pound loss. I've not been here for her since I"m new but I said on Monday, I want to sit next to her to do what she does.

Now that's rejoicing with someone. You want to do what ever they do or try to glean some information on how it's working.

girl. Strut your stuff and keep smiling. We are here for you .

Sit next to her... lol :dance:

Yeah....she should totally want to be 'friends' with you and find out how you did it. As I see it, HER loss for being so damn ignorant. Next time she makes a snide comment you should say "who peed in your cornflakes?" just as sweet as sugar....

I get it too! At my meeting is the most wonderful woman who has lost over 200#. She is humorous and gives great advice without being a know-it-all. When I first joined, I made a promise to myself that as I lost weight I would edge closer and closer to her so her good habits and good spirits would rub off. I've done that and we're good WW friends now!!!! I wish that complaining member would step back, look at herself, and immerse herself in the positive stuff that goes on.

In any case, please don't change your meeting. It's your meeting and your leader! The other advice is good about turning your head, etc. And :goodscale: and :carrot: and :dancer: for your fabulous loss.
Itryharder
234.6/187.2/170's and thinner! :cool:

it suprises me that your leader even mentioned she's a downer but hasn't pulled her aside to talk to her?? I would think that is their responsibility?? but anyhoo, I agree with the advice above, don't let her run you out of your own meeting, you were there first, lol.. she may be shooting daggers but think of all the ones in the room that is truly inspired and happy for you, do it for them and just forget about her :)

I agree, ignore her. You've gone above and beyond trying to help her. If I were in the right mood next time, I'd stare right at that woman when announcing my weight loss and add something about all the HARD WORK you put into it.

Ignore her. 86 lbs lost? You are my hero! Congrats to you, and shame on her.

I'd sit next to her and just pretend to be oblivious to her disappointment in your success, that's just me though. I would say "Along with WW and exercise I have lost ___" I would keep stressing that it's not just counting points and changing diet but you have to get up off your keister too. Maybe she will get annoyed enough to go on a different night herself. lol

I don't do weight watchers but can imagine the scenario you describe. Has it crossed your mind that she may be jealous of your success? When you have weight to lose and you are at the start, someone who has lost such a lot of weight like you, can be seen as a wee bit threatening. This is not your fault, it's hers. I'd personally tackle her about her attitude, and gently explain that the only reason you have been so successful is through sheer hard work, positive mental attitude and support from others. Perhaps she will feel less threatened and will loosen up. If not you at least have the moral upper hand, and the dignity of explaining that your success is down to YOU !
Applaud yourself for your wonderful achievement- negativity is a killer to weight loss. Remember if she brings you down, she may well be bringing others down too !
Good luck