Ok so yesterday after church a lady that I talk to sometimes in passing came up and said hi - then points to my stomach and says "so when are you due".

Holding back the tears I said "I'm not pregnant" and she continues to say she was soo sorry and how she must have had it mixed up with someone else..blah blah some bs excuse and really at that point I was soo numb it didn't really matter what she said.

I wished her a good week and walked away. I managed to keep myself together until we got home and then I lost it. I cried pretty much all day yesterday.

I just don't understand why people think it is ok to ask this question. If the person has not told you they are pregnant - what makes you think you have the right to ask when they are due???

I'm hurt - I'm angry - I'm sad - I'm ashamed - I'm overloaded with emotions.

Aww, I'm so sorry for what happened! I wonder if you had on one of the new empire waisted tops out there that make everyone over 90 pounds look preggers? Like you, I wonder why people feel like it's ok to ask this! One thing to remember is, the Weight Watcher founder, Jean Nidetch founded WW because someone asked her the very same thing at the grocery store. Her answer was "September", lol, although she wasn't pregnant at all. Maybe this was a blessing in disguise and will help motivate you to stay on track. In the meantime, though, I know it hurt you, and I'm truly sorry that happened!

((((hugs))))) I've been there too!

That question was one of the biggest reasons I decided it was time to change my lifestyle and lose some weight. It was at my college graduation party and my uncle comes up to me and said "so, are you expecting, or are your genes catching up to you?" (My whole dad's side of the family is overweight). So he basically was saying either your pregnant or your fat. Totally ruined my mood for the rest of the day, and I had to deal with family and a full house for the next several hours.

I think it is rude for people to just assume that you are pregnant. If your family, I would have told you! If not, it really isn't any of your business!

no empire waist shirt - the 1 and only time I wore one at my cousins wedding - a lady twice my size asked me when i was due. *sighs*

I try to be nice as I can when people say these things - even though what I really want to say is "I don't know, hopefully if we don't have any fertility problems along the way and if everything goes as planned .... maybe in a year and a half I'll be due?"

I know it's wrong but every part of me wants to say something bad to silence them and make them feel as horrible as possible because that is the way they just made me feel.

First of all you give them the power to make you feel bad. Secondly I think women who are pregnant glow and have a self confidence/happy look all the time (yes I know they don't but I see a difference in how they carry themselves). I would take it as that and move on.

BTW it is possible someone said so and so was pregnant and she did mistake you.....she didn't say it to be mean.

BTDT hugs to you.

I heard that same question even before I was at my highest weight. I never ask a woman if she is pregnant even if she looks like she is about to deliver.

when i was about 13 i was at horse show and went into the registration booth to register my horse, i saw a women i hadn't seen in quite a while and proceeded to say (th is is lovely really) ........ "Oh wow i didnt' know you where pregnant, when are you do?" now mind you this is a tiny room and it was packed! she shot me a glare that would knock over goliath and said "i'm not!" well needless to say i didnt do well in the ring that day, i felt so horrible! those words have never passed my lips since! the reason why i'm telling you this is because it was an honest mistake, i would never hurt anyone itentionally. and i'm betting she felt just as bad for saying that as you did for hearing it.

btw i myself look like i'm carrying twins! even after weight loss lol.
there will be better days!

That idiodic question was the reason I started on WW. I moved out of state and just moved back and everybody and their brother was asking me that. Granted, I looked enormously large, but I think I just looked fat, not pregnant. Anyway, it served as a great motivator. Ironically, the other day at the grocery store, the cashier asked me when I was due. Now, after losing 25 lbs, some idiot still asked me. Again, I look full-figured not pregnant. I think we all can learn the lesson that you should NEVER ask anyone unless you have confirmed it with their mother first. Lol.

That's the worst...I've had it happen before. My dad was in the hospital and I was on my way up in an elevator when a lady asked me when I was due. It caught me offguard and I told her I had just had the baby! *lol* My youngest was 2 at the time and thank God neither of my kids was in there with me or they would have busted me out! I don't ask anyone that ever just to be sure because it really is hurtful.

At least it's good to know (good? lol) that this has happened to a lot more people than just me. Happened to me years and years ago. I was just out of high school, and really wasn't that big at the time so I'm not sure where that one came from...so people are just oblivious I think.

I think they're trying to be friendly and nice - they just aren't very good at it.

We're all doing something about it though! And even if someone goofy says it to us again, the important thing is that we're all healthier than the day we started this. There will always be annoying, rude people...but we'll be happy and healthy. That makes up for anything anyone can say.

That sucks As you can see from the above posts, these things happen, and you aren't alone.

Been there done that .....TWICE in my lifetime,first I was about 17,then after my little girl turned 2,I was 25, it makes you want to pinch the person's head off doesn't it? The sad thing about it is when I actually was prego with my little boy, nobody ever asked me once when I was due!!LOL.................

I haven't been asked that but it would really upset me if I as asked that - I've had 3 miscarriages in as many years.

Some people are just so rude!

Thanks ladies ....

It's not the first time but it definately doesn't make it any less painful.

I just think that it's absolutely rude - not only because I wasn't pregnant, just fat instead.....but...

what if I was trying and was having fertility problems, or what if I had just miscarried, or what if I had just had a child and they didn't survive.

I know that's a lot of what if's and how is a person suppose to know what we are going through - and I guess sometimes "we give them the power" to make us feel so bad.....the point is regardless of any of that - it's just not ok to ask any random person this question.

Thanks for the support all you ladies...I appreciate it!