Okay, so, I'm trying to get into weight lifting because I want to stop looking fat. However, I'm not trying to have a movie-star body. I don't want that; never cared about having a super-hot bod or wearing bikinis or anything like that. Pretty much all I wanna do is have normal looking arms and a normal looking stomach. I don't really care if people can tell if I'm overweight, but I don't want to look OBESE anymore. I feel like I still look obese, even though I'm really not that far from the "overweight" category. That's probably the best way to put that.
So what do I need to do in order to stop looking obese? Do I need to build muscle, build strength? Does building strength build muscle? Can you build muscle without building strength? And what does "muscular endurance" mean? It's like, I know like certain sets/reps gets you certain results, but then people say "It depends on what your goals are and what you're trying to achieve", but I don't know what will produce the results I want.
Any/all advice is appreciated!
EDIT: I just thought about this: My actual ideal body is that of a plus-size model, like you would see in a Lane Bryant Cacique catalog. That's what I mean when I say I don't care if people know I'm overweight -- I don't mind being thick and having weight on me, but I want it in a sexy way, not a flabby "my body's still gross-looking" kinda way.