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Originally Posted by DrPhotography84
Hi all! I'm new to this, but I'm desperate for advice, especially anyone else who has had weight loss surgery.
I had mine on February 5th of this year, down 62 pounds so far. I'm feeling great, and my confidence is going up every day.
I've kept my surgery a secret. I don't want EVERYONE knowing about because frankly I don't want unwanted remarks, comments, or judgments. I made the mistake of telling my mother in law, and begging her not to tell anyone. But she doesn't respect my wishes, and told the whole family anyways. "I don't know why it has to be a big secret!" Don't even get me started on this horrible womAn.
Now I'm torn. Should I explain to my family WHY I did this? I just hate that they all already know, and that some of them won't understand, and will just think I'm taking "the easy way out." Which is total bull. At least if I can explain a little bit, maybe they would understand better? That I tried the old fashion way, and I got tired of failing over and over again. Life is too short to be anything but happy!! And I was tired of fighting the same battle. Plus it was killing me.
Anyone have any advice?! Please & thank you!
First of all, congratulations on your 62 pound loss- way to go!!!!!
Keep up the great work!
Secondly- please stop justifying to others why you are taking good care of your health. The only one you need to answer to about your weight loss is YOU. So long as you are happy, healthy, and losing at a nice and safe rate, what does it matter what others think?
My in-laws are very nosy. I just nod and smile and tell them I am watching what I eat and exercising, when they ask how I am losing weight. That's already obvious with my weight loss, and truly, I am not up to listening to their lectures about how I should be eating certain foods that I am allergic to (yes, they conveniently forget I am allergic to most fin fish and some shell fish, and continuously try to get me to eat these foods. They also didn't believe my youngest daughter had a gluten allergy- as we would make up such a diagnosis and torture our daughter by making her go gluten free!).
There are lots of wonderful, caring, and supportive people out there always happy for you no matter how you're losing, so long as it is healthy. Focus on them and just stop worrying about the negative people who no matter what the subject, will always have something to day, whether it's about someone's weight loss, hair color, or the make of car they drive. Just smile and nod, then make a quick exit out of the conversation or change it if you have no choice but to be in the same room as them.
Good luck on your weight loss journey- you're off to a great start! I was going to have weight loss surgery, but for some reason, I could not lose that last pound out of 20 that I had to lose before the surgery. I tried everything. My doctor felt so bad for me, even gave me advice on what to do the night before and morning of weigh in at his office, and one day I just bawled my eyes out and said forget it, it wasn't worth. Don't you know, as soon as I quit the "pre-surgery" program they make you do, I lost four pounds.
Anyone who says that weight loss surgery is easy deserves to have a foot up their rear ends- easy, my butt! They ought to try eating protein shakes for several weeks and go through carb shocks when they dare to have a bite of pudding after surgery. One of my close friends husband had the surgery twice, and the dumping was brutal for him. I hope you have no problems and have a smooth journey!