I know this is kinda old, but I had to respond. I am 5'6 and currently weight 132. I know I look better between 118-123 pounds...I'm am small-framed and that's the weight I want to be at...I too, found this thread a little offensive, because it seems as though some are saying that a 250+ person who wants to loose, let's say 100lbs has more of a "right" to talk, complain, struggle, whatever? So, someone like me who wants to lose around 10-15 lbs should just "shut-up" and be happy at my current weight?? That's a little unfair IMHO. I struggle just as much as the next guy...constantly having to count calories, working-out, avoiding the yummy donuts at work....I've worked hard to get where I am...I gained 65lbs when I was pregnant...I weighed 177 and lost 55lbs all on my own....and I deserve to be happy with myself just as much as someone who has 100lbs to lose. Not everyone who wants below 130lbs is anorexic or "vain" or whatever...Yes, vanity has a lot to do with a lot of people's weight loss goals...but I also feel better and feel better about myself when I'm at that weight.

I just think it's a very personal and private issue that no one else has a right to "judge". I don't judge you because you weigh more than me...it just sounds a lot like "jealousy" to me. Each their own, I guess....but I just don't think that the OP's message or the one I quoted above were accuate at all!

Oh, and by the way...I'm not trying to offend anyone...just stating my opinion on the matter. I know I am new to the site...well, i've been a long time lurker, but didn't want to offend anyone...this post just kinda surprised me a little it...

rae rae21: I'm with you girl. We are all in this together, whether you have 10 lbs to lose or 100 or more lbs to lose. We all have our own demons. I can't forget about Karen Carpenter (The singer) who died thinking that she was obese. I think she weighed about 60 lbs at her death. She obviously had a problem and people who are really obese as I am, are in no position to judge anyone. Just remember that the large majority of 3fc are women seeking help not judging others.

You're exactly right! We all struggle and let's face it, the whole process of losing weight sucks! It's not easy for anybody...the weight I gained during pregnancy didn't just "fly" off of me, I worked out 5 days a week, counted calories, used fit day religiously, and stuck with my way of eating. So, i just think that we should be equally supportive to anyone going through the whole process of trying to lose weight and gaining a healthier way of living...and i totally agree with you about most of the 3FC's here are here to support and not judge...I was just replying to this particular thread...

Anyways, JMHO

OKay, unlike the rest of the people on this forum, I came here NOT to lose weight but to change my eating habits. When I was 115, I was rather chubby and at 110 and 5'3, I look perfectly athletic. You also must look at body fat composition- At one point, I was 115 lbs with 24 % body fat, and now I am around the same weight with 19% body fat. It's different for many people, and for those of us at a lower weight on 3FC, it all depends on what we each want.

Personally, I agree with you in a general sense; some people who are perfectly healthy shouldn;t strive to be model-thin. I don't like it when certain users PM me to ask me what size I wear because they seem so desperate to be less than healthy (yeah, someone actually was a size 3 and wanted to be a size 0, can you believe that?).

Edit: Okay, now that I've read rae rae's post I must add something: I'm all for everyone's methods as long as they do it in a healthy fashion.

I think we may have missed the boat on this one gals. I'm not sure that 100py's post really has anything to do with tiny women. I wish she'd come back and added to the thread herself. I wonder if it wasn't a distress call. She had a goal for Sept 4th ... that isn't far away. Maybe she's going through a perfectly normal struggle to determine her own goal weight. Struggling, as we all do, with what's good work, what's healthy, what's attractive, what's reasonable ...

Yes, i totally agree with you on the "healthy-way" statement! I was referring to women/men who were losing weight w/ the best of intentions and doing it in a healthy way. I know there's women out there striving to be "too thin"...and that's not what I'm referring to...i'm just referring to "normal" women struggling to lose weight in a healthy, non-destructive way...no matter how much they're struggling to lose....:D

Hi Susan! I'm not trying to say that Susan was trying to be "down-right offensive", but I think that some of us women who are at a so-called "normal" weight who are trying to lose a few more pounds to help us feel better about ourselves, may not understand this statement. She very-well could have been having a tough day and just needed to vent a little....i understand that..i've had rought days too...but the statement just "urked" me...

Correction~ She was 108 lbs. I'm not clear as to how tall she was but she's several inches shorter than her brother who appears to be of reasonable height.
I'm a bit of a ghoul and read up on celebrity/infamous deaths.

My .02 cents on the topic...I see a pattern reading the posts in this thread. The women at a lower weight are eager to explain achieveing lower weights and what it means to them vs. those of us with more to lose are the ones they are explaining too.:) Perspective and body image.
My sister (half) has been small her entire life. 5'3" and between 98 and 110lbs. Since turning 40 she is nearly 130 lbs. She is miserable. I feel for her because she's right. She looks heavy! I weighed 130 when I was 12 but just because our genetics went different directions it doesn't mean her struggle isn't just as hard (sometimes harder as she doesn't know how to lose it)...but not nearly as long!