I need a skolding. I went out to a club in ohio saturday night with my too cusins who have really nice bodies, You would think that that would incourage me to loose but instead i think its making me want to give up because i know i will never have the body i want so why even bother what is the point in looing weight if your still not happy and frankly i dont even think reaching my goal will make me happy i would still have stretched out skin and stretch marks i will never be able to wear a bikini again and that is my true goal.

I dont know i guess i just need to quit feeling sorry for my self and do something about it.

I know how you feel I see all this girls and just wish I could look like them and then I get depressed. No you will not look like them you will LOOK BETTER then them!! Just keep trying! You have very similar goals/weight as me. If I can do it - I know you can!

Just lately, when I feel really crappy... little when I feel like a little piggy. I go for a little walk or run (it takes me some time to get off my *** and do it) but I do it and even if it was only 20 min I feel better after Give it a try!

I don't know about a bikini, but as you start losing the weight you will start feeling *much* better about yourself in just your regular clothes. Things will start to feel looser and you will feel less self-conscious. Sure we all wish we looked gorgeous w/o too many clothes on, but truth is most people will see us fully dressed and that is where you will notice a difference first. Just keep up with it, you won't look like your cousins but you'll be a beautiful self-confident, happier, and more energetic version of yourself!

It can be so hard, I know. One of the best things I learned here, though, is not to focus too much on The End. When I think about 125 pounds to go I just wanna run screaming. So instead of thinking about 125 to go I think about the very next pound or the next 5 pound goal. Right now I'm thinking about about getting to 260. I know I want to be at 225 by the end of the year, but hey, that's 40 some weeks from now. I can't even plan for next week, much less 40 weeks from now!

The other thing is to never compare yourself to someone else. Their height, metabolism, and genetics make any comparison illogical. Your cousins, like my sister, got the skinny genes... you and me, we got the fat genes, and we have to do the best we can with the genetics we got. Though, as revenge, my sister may have gotten the skinny end of the gene pool, but I got all the boobs!

Hang in there, we're all here for you!

-Lala

I know how you feel, too. Clubs are HARSH, dude! I often leave my house feeling pretty good about myself... then after about 10 minutes in the club, I'm back to feeling like the fattest thing on the planet... like I should have my very own gravity field, I'm so fat!

But, you're on the right path. Think how proud of your body you will be when you get to where you want to be! That's something that someone who is simply genetically skinny will never be able to appreciate. It is a test, that's all. Just keep trucking along and keep your head up! True beauty is born INSIDE of you!

Ok, Yalondah, you asked for a scolding, so I'll give you one!

In the title of your thread, you asked "Why even bother?" Well, I'll give you 4 darned good reasons.
Every one of the folks NEEDS you. Needs you healthy and happy and ready to love and care for them. Needs you ready to accept their love and affection. Needs you to be an integral part of a fantastic team called Family!

Sure, vanity plays a part. I'd be lying if I said my sole purpose for doing this is health. But health is the most important, so I can be around to enjoy family and friends. Heck, so I can be around to enjoy ME! Ok, so maybe you won't be in a bikini. Not the end of the world, is it? Think of all the things you WILL be able to wear! And do!

Cheer up, kiddo. Look at your children's sweet faces. And you'll remember why you bother.

Hey I have those moments ALL the time! All my friends are at a healthy weight and are gorgeous and sometimes I just hate going out with them because of that. I'll have stretch marks too but it doesn't bother me that much. There are many creams and makeup you can use to cover or get rid of those. Keep your chin up girl! Just think of how sweet it's gonna be when you lost that extra fat and gain all that energy and self esteem!

Ah, you say now that you'll never have the body you want, but I can't wait to hear about how your mind changed when you lose those 63 pounds! You'll start to feel great about your body way before you reach that point, and by the end you'll be so proud of yourself for setting a goal and making it that being a babe will be even more fabulous!

Why bother? Because if you don't, your scale will go UP. Maybe you don't like yourself at 210, how are you going to like 250? Or 300? You HAVE to "bother" because otherwise you are going the wrong direction.

I told myself when I started this journey that I'm going to celebrate EVERY success, and even not gaining is a success. Granted I go some days and even that limited success isn't mine to celebrate, but I do have to celebrate that I turned it around, that my scale isn't climbing on a regular basis. That it is heading downward even if there are a few bumps in the road, it isn't heading toward 300 any more.